My daughter has supervised contact in a centre with her violent abuser father fortnightly. He has 2 contact sessions a month.
I missed one session out of them all due to illness but said I'd make it up the following week and that will unfortunately have to be the new fortnightly pattern but I would append an additional session onto the end by either taking a day off work or a Saturday..
DD and turned up to the missed contact session I was making up and he deliberately not to chose as I said DD couldn't do 2 weeks in a row as she's a v busy child and 3 seperate judges have said weekly contact isn't in her best interests.
My solicitor has said I've adhered to the court order because I turned up to a contact session that constituted the missed session but he deliberately chose not to turn up because I refused to do 2 weeks in a row.. My friends in similar situations say the Court is interested in seeing an effort made to make up missed sessions. My ex is trying to make me stick to the original pattern of fortnightly contact because the last session before we go back to Court falls on my birthday and obviously he wants to ruin that.. Now we're following a new fortnightly pattern he won't get to ruin my birthday. I just want to check from a Court order perspective I'm not in the wrong.. I know my Solicitor has advised me but I'm still worried and know that other family law solicitors comment on this section of the forum so may be able to advise also. For information, my ex is an extremely violent abuser who abused his child and who cafcass quoted they couldn't support contact in the interim. He's lied in court and been caught out lying and he made DD and I travel over 2.5 hours to get to the contact centre to deliberately not show up. All of the abuse was documented via children's services and the police. I fled for our safety with intervention from childrens services who relocated us to safety and he does not know where we live. Him not knowing where we live guarantees my safety. If he was to find out I'd immediately have to leave where we are.