*tw* child legal matter

[Bettyboop12345]

I have two children who I love whole heartedly. I’m not going to sugar coat it I’ve repeatedly messed up but I’d really appreciate trying not to judge me - I have my life on track now and I’m going to be 100% honest. I was in an abusive relationship with there dad - since I was a child and he an adult. We had two kids, no SS involvement. He beat me quite badly they got involved. We separated got off the plan and I stupidly got back with him. I was working full time, doing uni and he was main carer of the kids. The violent behaviour resumed quite badly- I fell into a deep depression and allowed my house to fall into massive mess. Quite bluntly it was horrible - I couldn’t manage everything but I should have. As a result of this I had my children taken away by social services, this was about two years ago. My family are not great so I requested they go to his parents as they are mostly good people. As things escalated he has been charged with several crimes against me including those when I was a child and is due to stand trial April next year - taken so long apparently due to ‘Covid’ - or that is what I have been told. Fast forward to now my children are on a kinship care order with his parents and I have unsupervised contact once weekly, though they are currently filling out placement with parents paperwork so I can move to have weekends. His parents are making it as difficult as possible now though, because I would not drop the charges. (Hopefully following this we can work to full time though I am not holding out 100% hope). I have a full time job and a new partner I love, we have been together a year and live together (no criminal record for either of us) and he works full time also. He has however yet to meet my kids - but they did a parenting assessment of both of us which was positive so we will be moving to this step soon. The difficulty comes in here - I have messed up again - I think I am pregnant. Will this baby be taken? Will this affect my current children and when/how I’m allowed to see them? What will happen? I am sorry if this is the wrong thread - and I know a lot of you will read this And judge me but I am trying to be better.

I don't think you have much to worry about. Given that the reason why your other children were taken in to care was your toxic relationship with their father, which is now over, the LA should view your situation differently now. If you drop the prosecution they may think differently.

I would be concerned that the children’s carers are trying to use contact as a way to get op to drop to charges. This cannot be in the best interests of the children.

It has been nightmarish tbh - I used to pick the kids up from carers and take them out all day now I either pick them up from school and drop them back at school (only a couple hours before school closes) or have to have a contact worker just for collections and drop off and they leave during the contact. It’s made it very difficult for things like weekends and school holidays meaning I can’t see them as long. That’s why they are trying to sort weekends - pick up from school Friday drop back Monday. The LA states it would be more detrimental to Disturb the foster placement and move them however.