2014 my parents had to live separately for their own health. He was seriously ill and Mom was throwing his medication away etc Mom has mental health issues and Dad who was much older couldn't cope because of his health.
First year Dad had no interest in Mom. After that he tried to get involved out of guilt but realised he couldn't cope. Dad died end of 2019. He hadn't seen Mom for around a year before he died. She wasn't allowed near him because of her behaviour issues and he needed protecting. He always put me down as next of kin, power of attorney and executor of his will. He left me what he had. I organised and paid for his funeral but actually tried to involve my Mom in the decision making because it seemed fair and I didn't want to be cruel and thought what harm can it do now? It was decided his ashes would go in with his parents. Unfortunately I live 250 miles away and Covid hit straight after the funeral. So my Dad is still waiting on a shelf to be interred. I want to be there when it happens but because of Covid haven't felt it is a necessary journey to make. What's another few months? I was worried my Mom would go ahead without me but the funeral directors have assured me that I can only be the one they release the ashes to because I arranged and paid for the funeral. I hope they keep to their word.
Does my Mom have a legal right to Dads ashes?
They were still legally married when he died but hadn't lived together for around 5 years, he had had enough of her to be honest and was happier not feeling threatened by her.
Now she's talking about buying a plot for herself and wants him in with her. I know he wouldn't of wanted that, though it was never written down. What can I do?