Hello this is really hard for me but i need to get it out in the open. My brother who lives at home with my dad has been stealing money. Not just a bit here and there but all of my parents life savings. The sad thing is my mom discovered of her savings gone just before she died 2 years ago. She was heartbroken because she trusted him. She would let him withdraw cash for her for shopping etc. But he was helping himself at the same time. What makes it even worse is that he was giving most of it away to so called friends who were into drugs or needed help with buying stuff for their children or flats.My brother has no clue about money. Doesn't work . Has no possessions and even drew up loads of debt with credit cards. Even when my mom died, he stole money from the funeral money. He didn't even care. All these years my parents felt sorry for him as he suffers epilepsy which is controlled with meds. So basicly they would do everything for him. Even at the age of 48 he is lazy and still has my dad who is 87 do his cooking for him and laundry. Its pathetic.
After the shock and upset of discovering what he'd done to our mom, my dad found out that his money had disappeared too. It was £10,000. He done alot of shouting. Mh brother denied it as usual. I was so angry and contacted the police. They said unless my dad pressed charges they couldn't do anything except make a report and give a warning. So they gave my brother a verbal warning. They said if it happens again i should tell them.
So ever since then j have been dealing with my dads financial affairs. Keeping it safe. Keeping hold of his bank cards pin number. I've been paying his bills and withdrawing cash with receipts for his shopping. Keeping everything in order. I had no idea about a Power of Attorney which i have recently registered as. Still waiting on completion.
A few months ago My dad withdrawed his Life Insurance money which was to pay for his funeral. He thought it was safer in his Savings account in his bank. So i deposited it for him. He also had another lumps sum which i also put in. So he felt good knowing that was sorted and safe. I am his carer and i felt good things were in order.
Now today i check my dads bank balance and its lower than expected. My dad was naturally angry at this. He contacted the bank. He discovered that £2000 has been withdrawn over the past year. Being confused as to how. As i have his bank card. It turns out he still has a bank card for his Savings account in his wallet which he keeps next to his chair at home. Basicly my brother has been using just like he done before and withdrawing cash. I was so angry at him but he just denied it as usual.
I am going to contact the police again to report it. My brother needs to be dealt with once and for all. How can he do this to my dad. My dad is living in poverty as it is. I am struggling but no way would i even think of stealing of my parents. My dad is 87 and clearly cannot manage his money. Yet i know he won't press charges. I am his carer and in charge of his money yet my brother is there helping himself again. I'm angry that he still had another bank card and knowing my brother stealing before let it happen again. Its shameful and heartbreaking. Its going to make my dad ill. And i can him losing his house. What can i do?