I'm stuck and need some help

[jayk0793]

Hey everyone thanks for reading I'm stuck and I'm need of a chat,
I was in a domestic relationship back in 2019 and finished my ex partner and moved away we currently have S.S involved and this social worker is telling me I am not aloud to have a new relationship, he even phoned me up to ask me if I was on any dating apps and if I've been swiping left and he also said I'm not aloud to be dating anyone... at the time I was on some dating sites but deleted them due to feeling really uncomfortable anyway a year later I meet someone who is amazing and total understands the situation he's amazing with my child and he's even encouraged me to start my own business which has turned out to be the one of the best things Ive accomplished I truly know now what a true relationship feels like .... I dont know what to do. Do I tell my sons social worker that I have met someone then have them on my case as well as my ex or do I just sit back and just see how it goes... thanks.

Do I tell my sons social worker that I have met someone

Yes.

Ymmm what is the concerns?
Best to be honest with social worker if you trust them

But ultimately no a SW cannot social police your love life- unless it impacts on children

Social Services are concerned with your ability to protect the best interests of your Child, when entering relationships, and as such you must notify them immediately of this change in your circumstances. 🌸

You probably would have been best informing the social worker, that you intended to start dating, before you let the guy meet your child.

If they're advising you not to date, it'll be because there's a worry that you won't adequately safeguard ds, did he witness violence, or anything like that, when you were with his dad? If you're seen to not be safeguarding, they'll intervene.

"We currently have S.S involved".

What triggered the involvement?

this social worker is telling me I am not aloud to have a new relationship, he even phoned me up to ask me if I was on any dating apps and if I've been swiping left and he also said I'm not aloud to be dating anyone.

Are you sure he was a social worker? :S

But yes, tell them about your new relationship.

If you still have social services involved a year later then there are more concerns than just the domestic violence in your last relationship
Of course you must tell the social worker.

Yes tell the social worker and be prepared to share the details of your boyfriend with them. I would expect them to be sceptical about your ability to identify if this person is safe to be around based on the advice they have previously given you. I would be open to what they are saying even if it isn't what you want to hear and go from there.