His girlfriend takes over childcare decisions

[gerbilfur]

Is there anything legal in place that I can do to prevent exhs girlfriend from taking over on child care decisions?

He's been with her nearly 7 years, we've been split up for 8. We have a ds who is 10. We do not have a good relationship. If I want to amend childcare arrangements for any reason, he won't do if she doesn't agree. I am sick to death of her doing all the talking while he hangs back.

I've told him that all matters about our ds should be between us only and that I should not have to ask his girlfriend for permission to see my son for an additional day here and there but he will not change it.

Is there anything legal I can put in place to ensure I do not have to deal with her in regards to what is happening to my son?

Unfortunately I can't see how you can.

Have you told her to mind her own business ? I understand how frustrating it is, my ex gf use to email me from his email address about our kids, I had no idea it was her being a bitch sending the emails being as award as possible until she started persistently spelling out middle sons name incorrectly. In the end I had to involve the Police, she was charged twice with misuse under the electronic communications act, different to you I know, but perhaps email him directly instead of speaking too him.

*My Exs girlfriend, not my ex gf.

Who has custody of your son @gerbilfur

I think he should consult her about changes to their family plans and arrangements.

We have shared custody. He has slightly more as ds school is next to them.

I just feel like I parent with her not him, which I don't think is right.

You can't change how they parent/stepparent. If she has taken on the organisation role of their setup and knows what their plans are obviously he will consult with her first for any changes.

I'm laughing at the audacity of you tbh OP.

You don't think your ex should discuss with his partner any change to the regular arrangement that YOU want

He’s the resident parent so no. You play by his rules or go to court for equal access.

@GrumpyHoonMain

He’s the resident parent so no. You play by his rules or go to court for equal access.

But this still wouldn't give her the right to demand her ex discuss arrangements with her.

Op you have to accept that the gf and your ex are a couple and like many couples the woman takes over the day to day running of the household, including kids. Have you asked him to do this with you?