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What does child support actually cover?

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sapientia99 · 03/02/2021 10:39

I just wanted to know what child support is legally meant to cover? (and if anyone knows how the goverment comes to that figure?)

Specifically, does it mean that if a child spends say 2 nights a week with one parent, does the primary carer who who has the child the other 5 nights and recieves child support need to provide say clothes, etc for the other parent whom the child visits? I don't mean clothes to wear to and from the other parent obviously (no sending naked children out and about), but to keep at their house and for use when the child is there. I'm not asking morally here, I want to know legally if they are required to.

thanks

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Collaborate · 03/02/2021 10:51

Not legally required, but I have to say that if you send your child to the other parent without a change of clothes you're as particular kind of dick head who doesn't mind being cruel to children.

It is this kind of attitude that ends with children being changed out of clothes at the doorstep, which is recognised as abusive behaviour.

So if you're considering it - just don't.

FlatteredRhubardFool · 03/02/2021 10:56

Well, there are so many options for what the £6 a day I get could cover that I'm spoilt for choice.
It goes in the household pot and is used towards food, rent, clothes, household bills, shoes. Apparently I should utilise it more appropriately as he thinks I spend it on myself.

Wenolikeexplodeythings · 03/02/2021 11:00

They gets a discount for overnight, because they need to provide stuff for the kids on those nights.

You dont need to pack a bag or send stuff to be left there, especially if you are concerned that you wont get it back or it wont be looked after.

I always send a weekend bag, because my ex wont bother buying anything and I'm done with arguing about it because it is the kids who suffer when they dont have a toothbrush or clean clothes. However, my ex has now stopped paying maintenance altogether because he "is saving for a mortgage so cant afford to pay anything towards the kids". So I've got bigger issues than sending some clothes in a bag.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 03/02/2021 11:10

When my ex was being a dick and told me to provide absolutely everything (food, nappies, cream, wipes, clothes etc) for his contact time with the kids, I said no (as he was requesting specific ingredients, brands etc) , and the solicitor told him that it was his responsibility to provide everything for his time with them, thats why they get a reduced rate per night they take them.

The maintenance he provides is supposed to cover absolutely everything for my time with them. He doesn't have to pay additional for trips, uniform or anything else (less than £2 per child, per day).

sapientia99 · 03/02/2021 12:53

Thanks for answering everyone. Glad to know where I stand.

I asked because my childs father has been keeping the extra set of clothes I had placed in my son's bag for wearing home the next day, and just keeps sending him home in the same clothes he had arrived in (dirty from the day before). It's costing me a lot of money I don't remotely have to keep buying new things, but I am very nervous of confronting him about it.

Now I know where I stand I can hopefully improve the situation

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Theunamedcat · 03/02/2021 13:07

Just refuse to send any more over if he questions it tell him he already has clothes

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