Hi there hoping to try and keep this post brief but it’s a bit complicated so apologies if I waffle! My ex and I aren’t married we do have three children our youngest is 7! We split last year and he left the family home. We agreed that rather than him pay maintenance he would just continue to pay the mortgage then when our youngest starts high school we would sell and split the difference (the school is on our estate and impossible to get into if you live out of catchment) anyway ex has met someone new and decided he wants to buy with her! In April he applied for a mortgage break for six months citing financial
hardship (he earns £60k a year) and he refused to give me any money for the children during the six months! The six months ended December and he’s paying the mortgage again but he wants to force the house sale. He has applied
for an order of sale! He went to a mediation mtg behind my back and told his solicitor I refused to come I didn’t even know about it I was actually at work! He’s told me that if I fight him he will pass any costs incurred on to me and has also advised that he won’t be paying maintenance once the house is sold as I’ll have the money from the house! He knows I can’t afford to fight him and he knows I can’t chase for maintenance as he won’t give me his address! I’m raising his three kids who I’ve protected fed and loved through a global pandemic and this is how he repays me what on Earth do I do I feel desperate i can’t eat I can’t sleep and when I ask him to reconsider he tells me that I can stay in the house for two more years provided i sign a document that his solicitor will draw up saying that he will pay the mortgage but nothing else and then I must sell and I must accept his terms regardless! If don’t I’m out now and he will take me for as much as he can and I’ll have nothing! Can he actually do this to us? I’ve never felt so broken down and vulnerable he’s holding me to ransom