Where do I stand on this?

[ermmm2021]

I'm in family court proceedings. (Self repping).
Judge has asked me to provide evidence of dad dropping child off and being abusive at the door.

I have a ring doorbell which picks up motion outside my house. One of the things it has picked up is dad having a phone conversation when I had gone inside. He was stood on my front garden speaking to somebody on the phone about the situation. (Family member assumedly). He was describing the situation and made reference to me and my husband using a disgusting derogatory term. There were a few terms but one used began with the letter R and ended in tard, if you catch my drift.

The judge has asked for the cctv evidence. If I send this part will I get into trouble as it's a private conversation he is having on the phone?

Does he ( the ex) know you have a ring door bell? Were there other more visible instances of direct abuse also captured?

He does know it's there, he has been made aware beforehand and it's visible. He had said other things more visibly but the words captured were truly disgusting.

But the thing is, he wasn’t being abusive to you. About you, yes. But not to you.

Disclosure has been court ordered. I can’t see you getting into trouble for that.

@PotteringAlong it might have been said about her, but presumably it’s one entry in a large catalogue of incidents that demonstrate his behaviour and feelings towards the OP.

Ok I don't want to be outing but the word used was sponging retards.
I'm disabled.
I just found it shocking. I've worked all my life despite being disabled.
I haven't been anything but respectful.

Words I meant.

Oh didn't realise I had already pretty much said what it was.

Thank you @Familylawsolicitor

Take as much evidence as you can, text messages, have your mobile on record when he drops off your children. Keep a diary of anything, even things the children tell you. Can you or anyone you know have a nosey at any of his social media? My ex got charged with contempt for stuff he posted about me & my new partner.

Frankly, if he knows the ring doorbell is there snd he’s been aware of other things having been picked by the ring doorbell in the past, then perhaps he wanted you to hear this and chose those words to upset you.

As previous poster said, the judge has asked you for this, I’d certainly send it through.

Thank you.

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