Ex husband demanding money post divorce

[WhiteWriting]

Hello,

I am desperate for some advice after a long and drawn out divorce (secret affair and child/financial hearings) has left me financially and emotionally broken.

The judge sealed the consent order in August. My ex did not meet the deadlines set for transfer of funds but eventually the money promised arrived and I moved out of our former home, buying my own place, in November.

I thought all was well but I have received letters from his lawyer demanding I pay invoices totally hundreds of pounds for gardeners and cleaners.

The consent order stated the house be left clean and tidy. Nothing more. No professional cleaning was agreed. No carpet cleaning. No oven clean etc. The large garden was tidy bar for one unused vegetable plot. No work on my part was discussed/agreed.

My ex had abandoned me to the sole upkeep of both in the preceeding two years with no practical or financial assistance.

So, my question is - what is my legal position here? The house is now up for sale and he is clearly trying to maximise his profits and get me to pay for the work. Is this something I should be worried about? Would a judge even entertain his petty demands after the event?

Many thanks for any replies. I am losing sleep over this.

Also, the Courts look dimly on vexatious litigants, which is what this sounds like.

Block him now op...

Is there a remote possibility that a judge would side with him

Over a slightly overgrown garden? 😂 No.

Do you have a clean break order on the divorce? If so, ignore him. Attend court if required - spend no money on it. Keep the consent order in multiple safe places in person and on line and never lose it.

Then "grey rock" him. Google that life changing magic.

If he wanted any extras added to the order presumably his solicitor checked with him. If a judge wanted you snipping lawns with scissors it would have been written in.. He is an arrogant twat. Ignore and block..

He went to town - prof oven clean, prof carpet clean, gardener, two days of a deep clean - obviously shocked I hadn't rolled out the red carpet.

I was also treated to a £110 invoice from an electrician as apparently one of the pendant lights has a 'cut' flex and 'a visual check had to be made to make sure no other electrics had been damaged. The implication being that I sabotaged the house a la Home Alone? WTF.

It would be laughable if I was hearing this from a friend but I am lining this nightmare.

Pics in Red - are you a lawyer? Will this be allowed go to court? I am frightened about big bills as I have already spent 10k on this.

@Lockdownlovernotfromliverpool

To give example of similar crap.. Exh's solicitor sent me a letter demanding I remove my newly fitted blinds from my home as they prevented exh from looking in my windows.. I ignored the letter and didn't go to prison... As I know exh would have loved - but that's another story..

What the actual fuck!! Why would a solicitor write this? Surely it reflects on their professionalism? They really will do anything for money? Is this the UK?

Yep UK... Exh also ran up parking fines of 4k plus and his solicitor wrote and suggested I pay them as the car was still registered to me. They sent letters to exh's address...
One day in court the judge held me back and asked when I was paying the fines (exh had written to court suggesting I be sent down for non payment of fines) . I was in the dark so he explained...
The same solicitor who insisted exh kept that car for himself. In the divorce paperwork clear as day... His car. His fines. Was bloody hilarious.. And a complete farce..
And it was a reputable firm..

For the love of god ... and what did the judge say when you explained?

Mine lied about his whereabouts and living arrangements on his Form E, denied the existence of a child and then in the biggest u-turn started using this surprise child as a reason he needed more of our marital assets.
He is now claiming long grass is dangerous for his child.
FFS - it's one. WTF is it wandering about in the garden unsupervised in January for?

Judge raised an eyebrow I can tell you.. I had to go away and write a statement and read it out to have all charges (fines) against me dropped.

He left me! I just don't get these fools!

Sorry @WhiteWriting didn't mean to derail your thread. Just can't believe some of the stuff on here. It truly must be worrying.

But from reading some of the replies on here it sounds like you don't have anything to worry about.

And as a PP said how weird he's moved his "new family" into the old family" home.

Google Grey Rock.

One day, my lovely, you will laugh at this. I can promise you that!!

Lawyers will threaten you with any old rubbish that doesn't have a hope of standing up in court.
Write back, pointing out that you fulfilled the terms of the settlements agreed, and you consider the matter closed.

It would be fun to write several letters though!

This would significantly bump up his legal bill

Perhaps a couple of phone calls to his lawyer asking if they could explain the situation slowly and clearly to you because you are struggling with the concept

Oh yes write to his solicitor asking why he thinks these things are required to comply with the court order???

So now you know his new life hasn't lived up to his expectations.. Or he would be too busy enjoying it to be hassling you op...

Yes, play him at his own game. He sounds weird, can't be too happy with ow if he's still harassing you. Can you just block him, have an email for contact.

Would be highly tempted to send an email a day to the solicitor.

Firstly asking to clarify the contents of the letter.

Then to reiterate what the response is.

Then to double check you have understood it correctly.

Think my solicitor charged a couple of hundred quid plus vat for an email.

This could cost your ex so so much money. He may stop of his own accord (because he runs out of money to flush down the toilet).

I think I may try the multiple e-mail route - I feel slightly calmed by all the sensible advice received. I can't imagine he will be dropping this so I may as well take control and fight fire with fire.

Interesting point about his continued obsession with messing up my life.Maybe the grass isn't greener after all!

I wonder if I can go all the way to court without spending any money? I had a good solicitor but can't afford her anymore.

Whilst the multiple email route seems fun, and I know it can be successful as a mate did it with a relative of hers who was playing silly buggers about probate. The relative needed up paying thousands in lawyers bills, my mate was ringing and emailing his lawyer almost every day for clarification on things.

However is this the best route for you? He's obviously not happy, why would he be harnessing you if he was? So why engage? Why give him the attention he's seeking?

Nah if I was you, I'd be ignoring and playing Grey Rock.

Does he expect the garden not to have grown at all since November? It's clearly going to be a bit overgrown by now if he hasn't done any maintenance?!

I think you're safe to ignore OP

Must be the OW lady garden - sorry terrible joke. Your old solicitor might do you a favour and write you one letter to tell them to eff off either for free or at a heavily reduced rate! At a minimum ask her for a free 15 min chat to discuss it - call her Monday!

I’d ignore the latest correspondence but if they keep writing then I would go for the petty email queries!