Need in law advice

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I am not sure if this is the right place to bring this up but I need some totally honest blunt advice on whether I’m overreacting.
As a background I am 39 weeks pregnant right now so all this has happened while pregnant.
My husband and I fell out with my in laws about 4 months ago and there was a point where I gave my husband the choice of who he stood by, me or his parents.
Yesterday I found out that following that my father in law altered his will to cut my husband out just in case I divorced him and tried to take any of his money - I have to be honest I’m not even sure it would be possible for me to do that but if it ever came to divorce I earn more than my husband and additionally would rather eat glass than take a penny from him.
My problem is my father in law supported by my mother in law seem to have no faith in our marriage and appear to think I’m a gold digger. I don’t care what his will said before or what it says now my only problem is with his reasoning for changing it.
Now I am so hurt and angry that they think this of me, would it ever be a topic I could bring up with them?? I get very squirmy talking about money in general and it is none of my business what his will says I’m just so offended he had this opinion of me.
Like I said I need brutally honest opinions on this, if you think I’m being a b*tch please feel free to tell me

I don't think it is your place to comment on your fil will, if anything, maybe your dh could raise it, but that is up to him.

Why have you fallen out with them? Who told you this information?

And as you’ve fallen out with them it’s up to your FIL what he does with his money, it sounds grabby to be concerned about the will of an in law you’ve had a serious disagreement with.

If you’ve got to the point you’re giving your DH ultimatums to choose between you and his parents then what’s in the will should be of no concern to you. I would say it’s a knee jerk reaction on their part to punish your DH and nothing to do with their thoughts on the longevity of your marriage.

Also doesn’t sound like you like them very much so why do you care about their opinion?

I guess you can't have it both ways. Fil choice what to do with his assets.

Why would you think you're being a bitch for caring about their opinions of you?

Y'know the old saying sticks and stones? Let them think what they like, you know the truth and that's what matters.

All the best with your baby.

Firstly - Stay calm.

Telling you both sounds like they want to escalate it, create drama and stress you both out.
You are giving them what they want if you do.

They also want to create an emotional divide between you and your husband while you are having your first child
This is a dick move even if you were unreasonable in the first instance.

I think you should focus on the baby right now. This can be resolved in 6 months or a year.

Right now I would not be having any contact with them and they would not be meeting their grandchild any time soon.

What does your DP say?

Also - Why is this in legal?
There is no legal matter here...they can leave their cash to whoever.
Although ypur DH can challenge it (probably successfully) if he is completely disinherited if they are in Ireland.

Thank you everyone for your good advice.

I only put this topic in legal because I really wasn’t sure where else to put it, I know it’s not really a legal matter but it didn’t really fall into any other category either.

I’d rather not say what the fallout was over initially because it is so specific and complicated, they were basically very involved in our marriage including where we live and were treating us like children.

We will always be connected to my in laws through a business my husband runs with them but it is now my plan to have as little contact with them as possible.

I really do appreciate all of your responses, you’ve all brought me to my senses. You know when everything is a bit fresh and emotional you can get too close to a situation and just need some perspective. Thank you all so much

Also I do just want to say I do know another person’s will is absolutely nothing to do with me and he can do whatever he wants with his assets. Thanks again everyone