Financial statement / divorce

[Mamstheword11]

Please bare with me, I am new to divorce, this forum and representing myself. So I am trying to get divorced which includes sorting the jointly owned house. Both parties had to file financial statements by 10.12.2020. I sent 1 copy to the court and one to xh the week prior to this. I have not received xh copy.

1. Should I have waited for a mutual exchange date for this and have I somehow made things harder for myself by sending all my information so early when receiving nothing in return?
2. I have read that I can contact the court to explain this although it appears unclear if that will make any difference to the case. As stupid as it sounds, how do I know who to speak to or what to say without it sounding petty?
3. If I write to xh solicitor requesting required document how do I do this and sound like I know what I am talking about? 4. Does anyone have a template letter I could use please?
4. After quite frankly 'being on the bones of my arse' at times since separation and raising our 3 children i am now a Foster carer which xh is using against me due to the increase in income. However the allowance I receive is only small and other money received is to provide care for the child in placement. Can he use the child's personal allowance to his advantage?
5. When reading similar posts on here I keep reading 'lip' (I think it is) what does this stand for please.
6. Long and short of it is, separated 3 years, 3 children (2 boys at home aged 14 and 16, one left home) equity of approx 60,000 in house. I pay everything and have done since separation although I receive csa. Contact is irregular, no overnight stays. I am single working part time. Xh is living with long term partner and her child, both working. Estimate their shared income is higher than mine (if Foster childs personal payment is not taken into account and based on this not being a stable income) How do I work out what is a fair split for me and my boys? Is 70/30 unrealistic? Would 50/50 minus mortgage payments, loans paid off and house ins etc solely paid by me be taken into account.

I am literally winging this and have no idea what I am doing whilst trying to look like I do so any help and advice would be massively appreciated. Thankyou x

Have you seen a solicitor? The first half hour is usually free. Contact the Citizens Advice Service, it is free and they will help you. Look on their website also - great advice on ‘ending a relationship’.
Good luck.

Hi. Thankyou for replying. I did have a solicitor who is still representing me on the divorce part but am self representing the financial side as found the solicitors extreamly slow and not being very good quite frankly. Me requesting things be added or took into account which they never did. I have got as far as form e but just not sure of what to do and when now. Due to not having a solicitor I am wanting as much time as possible to review xh documents but fear that they will somehow use the information I have given them against me and send his with very little time before filing before the court in 2 weeks so I am unprepared.