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Parental responsibility?

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AvoidingRealHumans · 09/10/2020 08:42

After reading another thread it has made me ponder something.
What actually is parental responsibility?
Has a lone parent had trouble doing anything with their children (schools, medical treatment, moves..) because the other parent with parental responsibility is absent?
Can this be removed for any reason other than assault, abuse of the child etc?
The situation that has made me wonder is that the father has been deported with no prospect of return.
I don't see how he could keep up with his parental responsibility in that situation and think it would be easier with a document stating that he has no responsibility without having to explain the situation, should it come up for whatever reason.

Any help is appreciated.

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FunnyInjury · 09/10/2020 08:48

No one has ever asked me about dds other parent. Not once. Not when travelling with our different surnames. Not for any healthcare reasons and not for student finance now shes older.
I think I once had to write an extra paragraph on a passport application as I couldn't remember his details and was in a rush to get it done.

No one ever asks, so I doubt theres a need for any sort of document Smile

Qwom · 09/10/2020 09:28

What would be the purpose in 'getting it removed'?
If the parent is named on the birth cert, they have parental responsibility whether absent or not.
Attempting to get it removed would be costly and I would struggle to see the point if the other parent isn't engaging at all...
I am a parent to a child of a man who abused me horribly and I can't even change my child's last name let alone have PR removed... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Qwom · 09/10/2020 09:31

"Parental responsibility means the legal rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority a parent has for a child and the child’s property. A person who has parental responsibility for a child has the right to make decisions about their care and upbringing. Important decisions in a child’s life must be agreed with anyone else who has parental responsibility."

Gingerbread has good info -
www.gingerbread.org.uk/information/legal-help-and-responsibilities/parental-responsibility/#:~:text=Parental%20responsibility%20means%20the%20legal,about%20their%20care%20and%20upbringing.&text=Deciding%20a%20child's%20name%20and%20registering%20their%20birth.

AvoidingRealHumans · 09/10/2020 09:42

Thank you for the replies. Qwom, I'm not stating I want it removed but asking if the situation has hindered anyone doing anything/making decisions for their children and if so, would it then be possible to remove it?
If this person has been removed from the country and will never be allowed to return, how could he fulfill his parental responsibility?
As the first reply states, (sorry no idea how to tag and forgotten user name) that lady has had no issues whatsoever and her child is an adult at uni now.
If that's the case then its a non issue and I wouldn't need it to be possibly removed.
I'm just looking for peoples personal experiences.

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prh47bridge · 09/10/2020 09:46

A parent with PR who doesn't (or can't) get involved won't cause any problems for a lone parent. It will only be a problem if the absent parent actively disagrees with the parent with care. You will not be asked for proof that the other parent consents to medical treatment, etc.

The only issue that is likely to cause problems is that you can't get his consent to take your child out of the country. If you have a CAO saying that your child lives with you that isn't a problem - you have the legal right to take your child out of the country for up to one month. If you don't have a CAO, there is a risk that you would be refused boarding or refused entry at your destination.

Qwom · 09/10/2020 09:57

I see!
I think it's only an issue if the other person with PR wants to cause issues.
If he's not around then I wouldn't worry! _
My DSs 'father' stopped any kind of contact after a very long (6 years) court battle that he lost!

ImABitScaredTBH · 09/10/2020 10:07

Qwom

Why cant you change your childs surname? Have you actively tried? My ex is abusive, theres a court order in place so he cant contact or communicate with me or the children and I was under the impression I could change my childs surname if i got a specific issue order?

Qwom · 09/10/2020 10:18

@imabitscaredtbh

Because he still has PR, he still has a say in something like that. My solicitor said there is no point in trying until my DS is able to reliably articulate his own thoughts on it, which, tbf, is about now with him being 11.

It sucks but because he has PR he will need to be named in paperwork and if he doesn't give consent for the change, it can't happen.

That is what I have been told

RedHelenB · 10/10/2020 06:29

Never been asked ever in the last 14 years.Have only travelled in Europe and children have same surname as me but it's never been questioned.

Wtfdoipick · 10/10/2020 06:36

Never been an issue for me however I am aware that a couple of countries are far stricter on the consent from all people with parental responsibility for example south Africa so I have always made sure any flights etc do not go via south Africa. (My brother had issues once due to not having his child bc with him to go there).

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