Non molestation order

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Dear everyone

I hope that all of you are having a lovely day.

So I’m 19 years old. I come from an incredibly abusive family to the point where I was taken into care more than once. Anyway my family were yet again harassing me to the point of getting the police to do a hoax welfare check in me. The police came and they were nice but I showed them all of the documents of previous hoax calls. My CIC documents of why I was removed etc and of them inpersonating me to various departments. So, the police have put in a safeguarding for me and they’ve put an alert on my file for potential hoax calls from family. They’ve done it for 6 weeks until I get re-housed again. The police have put in a request for a non-molestation order (I didn’t know they could do this). The only problem is that I have contacted the family many times in the last few months of private number as I was petrified when they were physically stalking me. I thought it would calm them down but it didn’t. It only made things a whole lot worse as they became severely abusive to the point where if they just gave me a rope I would’ve happily hung myself as that’s when my nightmare will be over as I hate being a girl with a Muslim background. As they are still trying to force the culture upon me. Like, being dead would be so much better at times I believe but I have support luckily so that I wouldn’t do this. So; as I’ve rang family in the past (I officially cut them of 2 weeks ago when I disowned them for good) will this go against me heavily in the non-molestation order? I have also seen them like 5 times in the last 8 months and I’m worried that now all of my in care documents, the hoax calls, the harassment that my worker can even vouch has happened with her evidence will just go down the bin? I told the police that I had last contacted them months ago without thinking as I was mentally messed up and I fear that that will be seen as me just being a liar when I have so much other evidence against them. My friends have told me to just never contact them again and to keep evidence of all their sickening mail etc which is what I plan to do because by the time the courts etc have sorted it all out then it will be 3 months of me having disowned them.

Hi lovely
I second what your friends say.
And no I don't think you contacting them more recently than you said will go against you. Just explain what you've said here. It's a stressful and upsetting situation and easy to get things muddled up and forget things.
Sending lots of love. You are doing the right thing xx

@wildthingsinthenight Thank you so much. It’s just difficult as I’ve got pets whom I’ve had for years but when the threats of harm were against my pets. That’s when I decided that enough was enough and that to protect my ‘babies’ lol I would have to disown them completely. Tbh. I’ve disowned many of them for years. It’s just two of them that have popped in and out of my life but since I’ve become so much stronger I’ve had enough and I’m not gonna stand to be treated like this anymore. With their past towards me as a toddler etc I’ve had to accept that people as evil as that can’t ever change because no human goes through those lengths of depravity unless they are evil. I assumed by their ‘niceness’ and gifts etc that they’d changed. I was 100% wrong but I’m moving in and I’m going to be enjoying a life without them. What’s fuelled it even more is that I’m trying to convert to Christianity and they hate that. They hate that I have friends who are boys and who are of different races where’s my brothers are free to do whatever they like and they can have as many girls etc before marriage and treat girls like dirt. It’s disgusting and I’m not staying in a religion like this. Some of my friends follow Islam and they are lovely people but for the ones who cherry-pick the lines it can get really dangerous.

So sorry to hear that you've had such a hard time OP, but glad to hear that you have some support. The Non Mol is to protect you. If your family are making hoax calls, being abusive and you need to move it sounds like you need it. Don't beat yourself up about having been in touch with your family as you're the victim here. Do you have your pets or do your family? Might be worth calling the RSPCA if pets are not with you. Take care of yoyrself

@TooCloseToTheProject

Hey x

I haven’t lived with family since I was 10 years old. I’m 19 years old atm. They were waiting for me to leave the system a year ago and I believed that they (only two of them) has changed whilst I disowned the rest years ago. However, I realised these two hadn’t changed at all. As for my pets I’ve had one for 6 years (a rabbit) and a boy rabbit for 7 months now (I adopted him as he was attacked quite a few times). I’d never let family within an inch of these two and so when the two main ones threats were diverted towards my two that’s when I had enough. It’s one thing for them to abuse me but when they start saying horrendous stuff about what they’d like to do to my pets that’s when I figured that I had two options. 1. To stay and put up with it. 2. To move and start afresh with my pets as well as to change my number, email address etc. I chose 2. As I love my pets. The police have put in the request for a non mol for me. I didn’t know they could do that. I thought I had to do it? Weird. I know that I’m being protected by the police as when I rang 101 even if my number, usually they tell me enough when I ring of my number but this time although they could see it was my number (new one) they were very private about things (two different officers in separate phone calls) and so I think they know about how dangerous family are. They’ve put an alert in my file I have found out that it’s for 3-4 months which is great (I thought it was around 6 weeks). I’ll be okay. I’ve hit by support network and my friends and my worker who is amazing. He’s sorting out my move etc and he’s gonna contact the police when I move to have the alert extended but the cops told me to not worry so much as these hoax calls are now going to be used as well as my care documents and the impersonations as well as my workers witness statements etc plus false anonymous claims as harassment and most likely they will be getting done over that. They aren’t smart. They are in fact helping me to be protected more from them and to get away from them much easier by making hoax calls. It’ll be funny when they check one of their phone records and mine to see that the hoax caller and I haven’t spoken on the day that they claimed that I was suicidal etc. Apparently I rang them up all suicidal (not true) and the cops will see that I haven’t rang them making this impossible and the hoax call obvious whereas the cops will see all of their private calls to me when they got a hold of my actual number. I never answered their private calls but I knew it was them xxx