Advice appreciated - child contact disagreements

[Ifyouarenttheone]

In court with an abusive ex, cafcass in section 7 report said while ex is a moderate risk to dc that there are protective factors therefore contact should be every other weekend with holiday contact too.

I've gone with the suggestions made by cafcass and offered two video calls with ex which he has refused. Ex is stating he want dc every weekend or 3 in 4 weekends as I don't work and dc isnt yet in nursery but will be at the beginning of next year.

It looks like it's going to a final hearing and I just wanted to get an idea of what the judge is more likely to order?

They usually follow CAFCASS. How involved was he in their daily routine before? they can usually spot when someone is insisting on extra contact without genuine reasons, it's a common tactic of abusive men to try and demand more contact. EOW is the norm I think

@lilmishap he hasn't ever been involved with dc and their daily routine. Dc is almost 2, not done naps, bed time, bath time etc. Put it this way he hasn't ever had unsupervised or unsupported access with dc. When I left I said that initially I wanted him to only have contact with dc in a contact centre or with one of my family members present but that he could also have someone with him to (family member etc) due to his behaviour towards dc and the fact his family allowed the behaviour. He decided not to have any contact with dc for four months.

It's so shit how they can drag it out but fingers crossed he'll get bored with the reality of parenting, not wanting to video call doesn't scream I love my DC, it sounds like he'll gift you vanishing for months again as that tends to be a life long habit sadly.
I wouldn't worry about the judgement tbh, I doubt he'll stick to it.

@lilmishap oh if he disappeared again that would be amazing especially more so if he doesn't pop up again. I live in hope.

And I know, one night away and I'm like can I call at least to say goodnight.. just to see dc little face and to be able to say even though I'm not there mummy still loves you etc that's all I want as this is really going to be a shock to dcs system.