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Social services

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Tillybean2009 · 12/09/2020 18:44

Hi wondering if anyone can help me I lost my 5 children to social services 8 year ago they said I couldn’t protect my children so now they live with my ex mother in law but my new partner is wanting a baby with me would they still want to access me after 8 years

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RunningFromInsanity · 12/09/2020 18:47

my new partner is wanting a baby with me
Do you want another baby?
Can you provide for /protect this one?
Have you thought about how it might affect your existing children?

JamieLeeCurtains · 12/09/2020 18:51

Are you asking if your children would want access to you after 8 years, or if children's social care (social services) would want involvement with you after 8 years?

Did social services not work with you to attempt to plan your children's return, or facilitate supervised contact, at all?

Wheresthebiffer2 · 12/09/2020 18:52

Are you confident this is a long-term stable relationship? You have sufficient money and security of housing? This partner is reliable, loving and committed to you? Working? You have other support now - friends and family? You are now willing and able to protect any future children.

I have no idea about Social Services view on this, but those would be things I would feel necessary before starting a family with anyone. I'd like to think that you'd be "allowed" to keep any child you now give birth to. Good Luck.

feathermucker · 12/09/2020 18:55

Do you see your 5 children at all?

Are you in a different position now to then in terms of being able to care for a child/ren?

Just thinking that IF (no guarantee either way) SS were to get involved, these are things they'd want to know.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/09/2020 18:57

Social services will definitely be involved. The baby will probably be put on a child protection plan from birth.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/09/2020 18:58

The midwife will have to inform them. Social services will want to know what has changed this time and how you plan to keep the baby safe. You are going to have to work very hard to prove that you an keep this baby.

ApolloandDaphne · 12/09/2020 19:13

I am an ex SW. You will probably have to undergo an assessment. If your circumstances have changed and you can offer your child a safe home then you will be able to parent your child.

Bluntness100 · 12/09/2020 19:15

How new is your new partner op?

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