A lot of people don’t understand that a caution is the same as pleading guilty to the suspected crime in court, the only difference is as a reward for admitting guilt at the first hurdle and saving the police and the courts the time and effort of a trial for a minor offence you are given a formal warning as a punishment rather than something more serious.
Most people have no idea what it means and that you still end up with a criminal record and it comes up on dbs checks, most people seem to think it’s just a warning.
A close friend of mine made the same mistake.
She was 17, a girl who was the same age as her had been bullying her 14 year old sister for months, literally making her life miserable and making her suicidal. The school and police had done nothing to help.
My friend found a note written by her sister which was a draft of a suicide note which included her plan of how she was going to kill herself, she lost it and went to confront the bully and demand she leave her sister alone.
They argued, the bully said something along the lines of “it’s not my fault she’s so pathetic she’s probably going to top herself, but I can’t wait to piss on her grave when she does” she then laughed in her face and my friend pushed her (not hard, just pushed her back away from her).
They argued for a long time, lots of shouting and screaming but eventually we pulled her out of it and walked away.
The next day the girl went to the police, she told them she was attacked, she had cuts and bruises and said my friend had done it, fortunately there was a cctv camera right next to where the argument happened and the officer had seen the footage so knew the bully was lying, but because my friend admitted pushing the girl during the argument the officer told her it was assault.
He was very nice to her and sympathetic about her sister and she thought he was on her side, he told her because she admitted the assault he had to give her a caution and she didn’t question it, she just did what she was told.
None of us realised what it meant.
It wasn’t until several years later when my friend was applying for jobs in the role she had just completed a degree in did she realised the caution meant she had a criminal record for assault and she would massively struggle to find a job in the career she had spend four years studying to do, she was crushed and it had lasting consequences for her.
I’ve no idea why it is not taught in schools.
My friend has spoken to a lot of people in her situation who were told “we are just going to give you a caution since it’s your first offence” and just accepting it.