I’m not sure if this is legal or not but don’t know where else to turn as I no longer have legal representation as the court case has concluded.
Cut a long story short, my ex partner has been denied any direct contact to the children, he has a period of 12 months to build a relationship via indirect contact. Throughout the court case he was ordered to do indirect contact, unfortunately my son did not take well to it and it caused him a lot of distress. There are safeguarding concerns regarding the father and the safety of the children in his care. There are concerns regarding emotional and controlling behaviour, towards me and the children.
It was decided by cafcass and the courts that indirect contact is the only way forward at this time. The father is to write to the children monthly, send low value gifts for special occasions or vouchers for the children to choose their own gifts. Cafcass decided that if the children were not engaging in the indirect contact, that I shouldn’t pressure and instead put any letters in a special box for the children to go to when they are ready.
The problem I am having is the response to his letters, he is bombarding me with questions in relation to the children rather than building a relationship with them, they are still unwilling to engage despite my continued attempts.
He refuses to support the children financially but is asking me what they need in terms of clothes etc, he is sending pictures of toys and asking the children to choose what they want, I can’t ask the children to choose a present as they close up every time I mention the contact from their father. I have informed the father many times of what the children’s interests are and what toys, books they are in to and I feel he should be using this information to purchase gifts that he sees fit or as the order states, provide vouchers.
I have had zero contact with the father since 2018 due to abuse and harassment and I do not wish to start communicating with him as I’ve struggled massively in the past with his controlling and manipulative behaviour.
The court order states that I should encourage the children to respond and reply with an update of their welfare and recent pictures, which I have and continue to do but I don’t know how to appropriately respond to all his questions.
Sorry it’s so long....do I just keep responding with an update of their welfare and pictures or should I be doing more?
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