Advice on experience of moving back to hometown in Italy with children after separation

[lilyblue82]

Hello all,

I am after some advice on experiences of moving back to the home country after separation and taking the children with me. My ex and I are both Italian, both from the same area. Children are 6 and 8 and they are both fluent in Italian.

My ex husband and I have been married from 2007 (we moved to London in 2007) until 2016, we divorced in March 2017, we got back together in June of 2017, moved from London to Birmingham in 2018 (because of his career) but my ex cheated AGAIN on me and we separated about two months ago. He cheated multiple times, he had an affair for about a year when I was pregnant with my youngest and I have endured so much humiliation (I had PTSD because my youngest was born as a result of a trauma he created). We moved from London (I left all my friends, it's a city I love so much) to Birmingham for a fresh start but I found him cheating on me again just before lockdown.

There is one episode in 2019 where my ex husband hit my eldest and left the child traumatised. My ex also suffered depression and he is bipolar. He harassed me and he was arrested in 2016, I dropped the charges.

My situation is:

I have a great job and my manager is supportive of the move, however they want to transfer me on an Italian contract. If this does not work out I won't be able to say that I have a job if I move back to Italy and at the moment it is not easy to have a job there.

I have a house in Birmingham I am prepared to sell if I have to.

I have a lawyer who is taking care of my case.

I am ALONE in Birmingham, I have few friends but I am scared of being alone and I am scared of falling into depression again

I would have a house in my hometown I have to refurbish, the kids can have my family and my ex's family close by together with relatives and friends. They can live in a great nurturing environment and I am happy to pay for tickets to my husband to come and see them once a month and I am prepared for him to have the kids for the majority of their school holidays.

I would love to hear experiences from those who have been in a similar situation and the outcome.

Thank you

xx

Bump. I think as this is the legal advice section and you're not actually looking for advice that this would be better placed in relationships or divorce and separation. Best of luck with the move. Relationship breakdown is hard and harder when away from family.

I think you need to ask HQ to move this to Relationships possibly, though obviously as far as the legalities go, if your ex stays in the UK and you move back to Italy he will have to give his consent.
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