CAO query

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Hi all,

Hope someone can help or advise , I have a CAO for indirect contact only ( only via solicitor).

CAO was agreed at First Hearing as CAFCASS had advised section 7 and fact finding and he realised it would be long winded and that teenage DD ( 13) would be asked her opinion which is she has zero interest as he’s been absent for 11 years of her life.

Now less than a year after Ink has dried on the CAO he’s written to my solicitor threatening court again for “access” his words..

Sol has advised just see if it happens .. but I would appreciate anyone else experiences or advise ..

He’s a toxic Narcissist and an expert in gas lighting..!

I agree with your sol. See if he does anything about it. It might be bluster, and if not then the court will see and have access to all the previous documents. There would probably be a CAFCASS safeguarding letter again.

By the way- if he is trying to scare you into 'access' which means you would be breaking the court order for indirect contact I would strongly not recommend it. There is a court order in place. If he wants to vary it he will have to make the proper application.

Good luck.

Thank you for replying , my gut tells me to do just that ignore it as sol suggested , I just dread the thought of going through it all again it’s very stressful having to dig up all the old stuff like police reports etc.. emotionally very draining and I know I was lucky to get it resolved at the first hearing . I
Just feel it’s all part of his attempt at control again.. it’s so sad but the day my DD turns 16 I will feel such relief .. I just want to protect and shield her from a very toxic man , she’s aware of him I don’t bad mouth him or discuss what he’s done in the past .

Thank you 🙏