Hi
This might be quite long.. so i do apologize. Basically whats happened is i have full residency of my daughter, and my ex partner gets her every second weekend. He had her for a week there in the summer holidays she came back on monday and told me a few things. She mentioned how her dad told her he was going to kill me and all my family, he also told her he would put my hand in fire.. just things you shouldn’t be saying to your 8 year old daughter! Anyway I phoned the police as he’s made threats before and i had to get him lifted as he had put his hands on me, and its really not fair on my daughter to be made to feel that way or listen to him making such threats. So the police came out and they heard her say that she didn’t want to go back to her dads and she wanted to stay with me forever. Which I don’t blame her, but anyway, her moods have been a little off, and shes been hitting doors, kicking walls and things like that. We had to go to a food shop and were taking the dog a walk afterwords. So everything was fine initially, until she took another tantrum and was just being quite cheeky so i told her that when we got home she would be grounded. I feel as though that was fair. So, we walked about the park and she said “I’m walking to my dads” my partner and i never really thought anything about it because shes never done this before so we walked in opposite direction thinking she would follow, which she didn’t, i turned around and couldn’t see her, so obviously panic had set in. I didn’t think she would walk to her dads so i had all these horrible thoughts in my head as you would as a parent. Looked everywhere and when I couldn’t find her i then contacted the police to say she was missing. I had text my ex’s mum to say that if she was at her house she needed to let me know, i tried phoning and had no reply. So the police came to meet us and said “you do know shes been found, shes at the police station with her dad” so at this point im livid! Like how dare he not tell me he knew where she was all this time while i was running about crying my heart out searching for her. So anyway.. we made our way to the police station, i was then asked to sit in a room and wait for officers coming to speak to me. So i waited about half an hour until they eventually came in. They told me shes safe, shes fine. Then they told me that she was going to stay with her dad tonight. Because she had told them she wanted to stay with him for 1 night. I was not happy at all, i made it very clear, especially with the threats he had been making! But they weren’t interested.. i said well can i see her? I just want to see her. I must have asked them this same question about 10 times and everytime they would say no! That it would upset her and she should stay with her dad for the night to diffuse the situation. They also asked to see the residency order proving that i am the one with the full contact and obviously i didn’t have it on me so could not prove it. But they also said that the dad had said that he had no idea about it, that what he was aware of it was mutual! Which its not! The order is still in place and i have the proof. When i woke up this morning i phoned the police told them i have the proof and that if i came and showed them would they then be able to get her for me. But they told me thats not how it works, they don’t deal with matters like this. Its upto social work, all this nonsense. So i contacted social work and was told the same thing!!! That its nothing to do with them, they cant help. All they advised me to do was contact my lawyer.. which i have, almost 5 times today with no reply! I feel like no one is helping me, I don’t know if i can just go get her, or if i should just wait on my lawyer advising me the best way to go about it. I just want my daughter home. I genuinely don’t believe she is safe with her dad, hes filling her head with nonsense, saying crap like “the white people are looking after us, and once this is all over they’re going to come kill us all” hes saying that to an 8 year old!!!! Then told her not to tell anyone. I told the police and social work and they’re doing nothing!!! Shes scared to tell me anything incase he finds out that she told me and then she would be in big trouble. I will not have my daughter feeling like she cannot speak to me. I need advise, whats the best way i can go about this? Has anyone else been in a situation like this?