I’m divorcing EA ex. Mediator has asked him to attend, he hasn’t outright refused but keeps making excuses, considered by mediator as evidence of non-engagement, so I can get a certificate and take it to court. The problem I have is he is moving to Vienna in September and has told me his monthly outgoings will be 5000 euros because of it being an expensive city and he’s leasing a new car.
I don’t know when I can get a financial hearing at court, and goodness knows how long until a settlement is reached on finances in court (years?) whilst he will be in another country. He knows I can’t afford to pay the court fees for the hearings (will borrow) and will have to represent myself.
I’m really scared for myself and dc and not being able to cope, ex earns a 6 figure salary, one dc is at private school due to a specific learning need and is a year back than would be at state school.
I won’t manage, even though I work, I earn a much lower salary barely enough to cover mortgage bills and food. Is there anything I can do to get ex to agree something before he goes? I can’t afford solicitors fees have spoken to a couple for free advice, and had to scrape the fee together to pay for divorce application to be submitted.
When I tell ex this is not reasonable and fair on the dc to leave us in this kind of situation he says stupid things like me and dc can go with him to Vienna then.
Thank you!