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Court Statements, Emotions and Human Experience

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NataEva · 19/06/2020 20:17

Hey Ladies,

I'm going through the court proceedings regarding child contact. I'm trying to write a statement and I hate it.

I hate it because it reduces my case into a bunch of facts and removes my human experience of the events. I understand the structure of the statement and that they meant to be objective facts. However...

Recently I leant about a concept of integrative law that uses the law to resolve conflicts for real, versus just making one side loose and the other win. It's a concept of law that helps people rather than purely punishes and traumatises. It's being practised by some groups of lawyers in the USA. They used modalities like design thinking or Non-Defensive Communication to help their clients.

this concept got me thinking: Is it possible to write a statement that is not overly emotional but at the same time reflects my humanity and the experiences I've been through?

Going to courts has been traumatising for me and the rest of the family including of course our son. I'm wondering if there could be a better way?

Have you got any experience with more personable communication in court?
Please

Below I'm posting links to useful books:

"Lawyers as peacemakers" by J. Kim Wright

www.amazon.co.uk/Lawyers-Peacemakers-Practicing-Holistic-Problem-Solving-ebook/dp/B00L9J6DRA/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=lawyers+as+peacemakers&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1592593749&sr=8-1

"Non-violent communication" by Marshall Rosenberg

www.amazon.co.uk/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Guides/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&crid=2QVK6IOHMC0MF&keywords=non+violent+communication+by+marshall+b+rosenberg&sprefix=non+violent+%2Caps%2C228&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1592593832&sr=8-1

"Taking the war out of our words" Sharon Ellison

www.amazon.co.uk/Taking-War-Words-Non-defensive-Communication/dp/0972002103/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=non+defensive+communication&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1592593970&sr=8-3

OP posts:
beelola · 24/06/2020 13:11

A position statement is literally just to clarify your position. It should be completely focused on the child. But I do think it can contain emotional elements if it is appropriate and relevant.

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