Social services and domestic violence

[Hannahlou2020]

Hi mummys

So 2 years ago I suffered a mc 😭 and my relationship was not in a good place tbh I had to ring police to take me to a relatives home at 12:30am because my partner had come home extremely drunk and threw items at the wall, I got scared and just wanted to go.. He got arrested but never charged with anything, I got a dvp (protection order) on him for 1 month to stop him contacting me..

I then decided a few months later to give it another go and things have never been better. Until recently I found out I was pregnant and went the hostpital they told me they would have to contact social services because of what happend in the past.
Now all I'm doing is reallllly worrying that my baby will get took off me, does anyone know what will happen With them being involved? Do I have to leave my partner? And would they say stuff like leave or we take the baby or do they just do it? I don't know what to do, the relationships going really well and I don't want to have to leave but if it means me keeping myj baby then of course I would leave Immediately.

Thank you xx

Please don't worry. The chances of social services taking your baby from you are remote. There may need to be a parenting assessment completed to ensure you are both aware of how to keep your baby safe, they may ask you to complete a programme such as the Freedom programme which gives you an insight into unequal relationships or Building better relationships or something similar. You might get some additional involvement from a health visitor.
But you might get none of that. Social services don't WANT to remove your baby, they just want to ensure you can keep baby and yourself well and safe.

No they wont take your baby, please dont worry about that. They will probably want to visit and talk to you both. They need to know if it was a one off or if it's a going situation. They might ( guessing ) want to check in on you at some time in the future.

You have to try to think clearly that it's all for the benefit if your child. Be honest and they will see that. Also if things wasnt pretty back then, they can help you to avoid going there again.

Congratulations and please just enjoy this time.

Thank you so much, I'm just sat there everyday with this playing on my head, worrying about everything when I know I shouldn't be.x