How to avoid putting him on the birth certificate

[DaisyBee123]

I know this is a long shot, but just as the title suggests, I am wondering if there are any ways to keep him off the birth certificate? I have been advised by many people, including Women's Aid & solicitors to keep him off it... Only now he is applying to court!

I am aware that once it goes to court, they can prove paternity and put his name on it. This is really worrying me as I know the sort of man he is and how much more rights he will have by being put on it. So if there was any advice on what to do to avoid this happening, it will be much appreciated! The only thing I can think of is moving, but even then I feel I will have to move abroad to make it harder to be done. I was hoping I would have more options than this.

Married or not?

you get to choose whether or not to put him on the BC
It's quite a lot of trouble to go to for a man to get put on it ....I'd be surprised if he actually went through with it
a more important question is if you and your baby are safe
is baby born yet? you can get help from your midwife if not and your HV if baby is born
WA and the solicitor are right, if he goes on the BC you will be tied to this man for 18 years minimum

....unless you are married, than he is assumed to be the father and you have a bigger problem

I knew someone who wanted to be on the birth certificate his girlfriend refused the paternity test so he was absolutely stuck. If you do not want him on it just follow advice given.

As he is taking legal action the courts would consider your child's best interests. It is unlikely you would be able to stop him getting the necessary order but not completely impossible.

Moving will make no difference. If you try to move abroad he can take legal action to stop you. It is highly unlikely the courts would support you moving abroad to avoid him getting his name on the birth certificate.

If he has applied to court then he’ll get his name on the birth certificate. No way to prevent it.

Maybe get as much documented evidence as possible about how bad he is (assuming he is as you’ve mentioned women’s aid) and see if you can get court orders to keep him away from you, from not contacting you etc so that W en if his name does end up on the birth certificate you’ll be able to minimise the impact it has on you and your baby on the basis it’s not in the baby’s interest to meet up with someone who is dangerously abusive. Make sure that before birth you’re living where you want to be so he can’t stop you from moving to be near support and so on. Must be horribly scary and gutting in the circumstances but work out in advance how to minimise any impact if he does have his name added by the courts.

I feel I will have to move abroad

This sounds really extreme, OP.

It's not perfect having a nasty piece of work having parental rights (I'm in this position but DC are now late teens and we got through it when they were little, but of a faff but completely manageable).

However, if you're considering such extreme options, I think you should first consider exactly what it is that you're worried about, from a child welfare perspective. Because if there's anything he tries to do that's against your child's best interests (refusing an operation, preventing them moving schools, etc), you can apply to court and get help.

If you just don't want to have to tell your DC who their father is or you don't want his involvement in your DC's existence acknowledged, it's worth thinking about why that is and who you're doing that for.

Did WA or the solicitor have advise of what to do?