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My new partners ex

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Mummyhelpplease · 06/05/2020 10:42

I’ve been with my partner 15 months and he has a child with his previous partner. They’ve been going through court proceedings and they seem to be making progress. Obviously the mum hates me and has made things very complicated. I am apparently a threat and I am imposing (I’ve only met the kid maybe 5 times at an hour max) How long do women wait for it all to settle and are able to start to build a future with their partner and their child? Does it ever get better? Because at the moment I cannot see a light at the end of the tunnel. I feel she just wants things back on track so she can control my partner again. I have forever been reasonable and reassuring. I don’t want to be the child’s new mum, they’ve already got one. I’m just here to support my partner and share his happiness and love for his child. This whole process has also made me very sick and anxious and I don’t know how I’ll get over it...

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kitk · 06/05/2020 13:16

Can I suggest asking MNHQ to move this to step parents? It's not really a legal issue- the court bit is irrelevant to your question

Cabinfever10 · 07/05/2020 19:24

Depends if you were the ow or are a pushy overbearing person (you know the type who bm instead of mum) or if she's crazy (like my dh's ex) no it won't. If you are really lucky she might calm down when she meets someone herself.
Good luck

TinRoofRusty · 07/05/2020 19:29

Move on from him. It's not the right time. He's got issues. Honestly why on Earth do you want to saddle yourself with some guy who's got all this baggage? NO ONE is worth that, no 'love' is worth that. It will probably never get better, especially if he left her for you.

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