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Is there anything I can do?

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few43453545 · 12/04/2020 13:42

back info:

Ex DH is an abuser. Raped me in 2017 whilst I was asleep with the children in the room. I went to the police a month later where he subsequently convinced me to drop the case against him (not entirely his fault a friend I'd told at the time who said he'd support me turned round and said he didn't want to get involved and wouldn't talk to the police) and later on get back together with him.

STB EX DH is refusing to sign divorce petition, why I have no idea. I've had to amend the petition to be able to get it to go through without him responding.

So the other day I had a Facebook message from some woman who it turns out he's been shagging. Claiming it's not fair he can't see his kids, he's a great dad etc.

Turns out he of course left out the fact that he raped me, threatened to kill me multiple times, neglected the children. (I was unaware of this
till after he decided to stop seeing them) and it was him who decided he did not want to see them anymore a couple of months back.

I told him I didn't want the people he's sleeping with messaging me about my children and especially about him. I don't care what/who he does I just want a divorce and to leave me alone.

Yesterday I receive another message from her. She "doesn't want to creep me out" however she's been to my house and has left things on my doorstep/drive and looked through my windows to know my 2 DC looked like they were having fun.

When I asked her how did she know where I live and her beating around the bush she finally admitted that EX dh has told her! He doesn't know she has been round and is adamant it has nothing to do with him. (Which is mostly likely true*)

God knows who else he has given my address out to!! Is there anything I can do about this? Anyway to make him stop giving out my personal detail to random people I don't know.

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HappyHammy · 12/04/2020 13:54

Block them both on social media. Inform the police and your solicitor. Dont engage with either of them. Abuse or womens aid helpline may be able to give you advice.

few43453545 · 12/04/2020 14:03

He is blocked in every aspect bar email. Blocking her however doesn't change the fact she's now coming to my house nor the fact he's freely telling people where I live? Albeit she was swiftly blocked afterwards.

I have no solicitor, I'm doing my divorce online myself.

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categoricallycrackers · 12/04/2020 16:14

Your best bet may be the police here, what he (and she) are up to might constitute harassment/stalking.

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