CAO after 1 session mediation

[Livedwithapagal]

Afternoon,
Seperated partner is going to court to spend time with 2 kids.
Has been abusive but I did not report, has anger issues (sacked from work muiltple times) has never spent more then a couple hrs (forget about baths, feeding, teaching) with them and that's by giving them a phone to quieten them down. Had
One session with mediation and he didn't want to do the swimming class and wanted the whole day with them to which I didn't agree especially at the start.
What I am looking for is some guidance on what happens in court?
He's never been an active parent - he wants to spend time which I can agree to but he honestly can't cope, as he's never shown this from the start.

Normally, if NRP is granted contact, it's accepted that he/she can choose what to do with the kids in that time. RP cant usually insist that NRP uses their contact time to take the children to a specific activity like a swimming class. Although the child may benefit from having hobbies, the argument goes that they also benefit from having contact with their other parent and spending time with that parent. So I'm not sure you'll have much luck arguing about the swimming class.

Unless there are safeguarding concerns- e.g. documented abuse - ex is likely to be granted whole days and overnights.

If you genuinely believe there are
real safeguarding concerns, crack on with court, but if not, in your situation I'd go back to mediation with a spirit of compromise.

Thank you for the reply, I have some incidents to show anger issues(emails of colleagues, anger management sessions damage to property) , and maybe can get police record for when he lashed out.
Thing is if he's going to use family members to look after kids how is that going to get tracked?
I know he can't handle the kids alone for a prolonged period of time - otherwise I wouldn't have issues with them staying overnight.