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Breach of Child Arrangement Order

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Sproutycakes18 · 18/02/2020 11:32

I'm pretty much at my wits end and just wondered if anyone could offer any help or advice...

I left my abusive ex in March last year, he wanted contact with our daughter but after finding out I was his 6th victim, I insisted it went to court. He was granted 3 hours a fortnight of supervised contact which started at the beginning of November last year.

As it currently stands, he often chooses to work overtime instead of seeing his daughter, meaning he's only done approx half the contact hours he's meant to have done.

Two stipulations of the order were that he had to complete an alcohol treatment course and a Building Better Relationships course. As it stands, he's recently been convicted of drink driving and won't be completing the Building Better Relationships course because he intends to move out of the country before it takes place.

I have been back to the solicitor that represented me in court and although I understand she is very experienced in Family Law, it seems totally unreasonable that she doesn't see it fit to take this back to court. At what point is it in my daughter's best interest to continue building a relationship with a father that clearly has no interest in doing what's necessary for his daughter and ultimately isn't going to be around much longer?

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Whynosnowyet · 18/02/2020 11:35

If you can prove these things seems detrimental to your dd for her to even turn up to see him given he is walking away anyway.
See a different solicitor..

titchy · 18/02/2020 11:45

If he's not going to be around much longer what's the point in returning to court?

Sproutycakes18 · 18/02/2020 12:03

Because the order can than be discharged by the court.

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Whynosnowyet · 18/02/2020 12:08

Go back to court. Make sure you dot all i's etc if he won't be contactable in the future. For example has your dd got your surname?

Sproutycakes18 · 18/02/2020 12:23

On her birth certificate... No but I have changed it via deed poll to mine.

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Whynosnowyet · 18/02/2020 12:59

I know it's difficult to achieve but worth asking for his PR to be removed if he is going to permanently live abroad. My ds wanted to change school at 13 and the council authorities wanted 2 signatures. Said we would have to go to court to get his if necessary. That would be unattainable for you op.

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