Can his separated wife make him choose between me and his kids?

[Dawizzy146]

Advice needed please. I am with a man who has been separated from his wife for 3 years. He has 2 biological children from his marriage plus 1 stepson. We have had a great relationship for the past few years and he was going to ask for a divorce with it being 2 years separation. Also his son and daughter go to the same school as my daughter. He has never told his wife he was in a new relationship as everything was plain and simple and worked well. Anyhow she has found out through the wonders of facebook that he is in a relationship with me and all out war has started. She has given him an ultimatum, it's either keep me or his kids. Can she do this? Is there anything legal he can do so he keeps both? I'm so down over it and not eating or sleeping due to the worry of it all. Any advice would be great thanks x

She can make it difficult for him to see the children, but she cannot stop him, but if she does make it a problem he may have to apply to court to see them. The courts will never stop a parent from seeing their children. Even if you killed or raped someone you will always get access to the children, but the reality is she can make it difficult.

If she stops him seeing the children, the kids will ask for him and she will have to deal with that

He needs to apply for contact at the court, if no safeguarding issues they will likely grant EOW or similar, if kids are older they will likely be asked how they feel too

I assume he’s been having regular, meaningful contact with his children during this time?
Have you met & spent time with them too?

Sorry to chip in here but a court will not always grant access to the children. A sheriff recently did not grant any contact to my ex husband.

She can make it difficult for him. He will need to apply to court for access if she is denying it.
Has he always been involved with his DC? Has them over, spends time with them, supports them etc? Does he have a good relationship with them?
Do you have a relationship with them?