Mothers will

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This is a difficult one my sibling and I don't have a relationship and my mother died recently and I found this out through a friend of mine. My sister is refusing to talk to me about anything and went ahead and organised the funeral without informing me. I live abroad and it is very difficult. How do I find out if my mother left a will.

Go to www.gov.uk and search. Wills are public documents and the probate office will have a copy although it may be a bit too soon.sorry for your loss and I hope this isn't too distressing

Thank you she passed away in June this year so not sure about probate. I don't know whether she had an executor or anything. I think,I am still in shock really as she was healthy with no illness just died in her sleep. Because of my work I wasn't able to visit her that often but we spoke regularly on the phone .....she had a busy life and took holidays alot so I wasn't unduly concerned when I hadn't heard from her for a few weeks. The worst thing was I sent my sister a message and she made out my mum was staying with her when in fact she had passed away.

Sorry for your loss. What a horrible thing to do 😥

Sorry for your loss op

Your sister sounds unhinged. Sounds like she wanted to prevent you from finding out about your mother’s passing. Perhaps as she didn’t want you at the funeral or because she didn’t want you finding out about the will.

You can do things to remember your mum where you are though. Perhaps on the anniversary of her death next year you will do something nice. Or perhaps you will come back to lay flowers on her grave or at her memorial in a crematorium grounds if there is one.

You may wish to check land registry if your mum owned a house in case that's been sold.

I'm so sorry you've lost your mum.

On the basis of your sister lying about your mum, I think you need to take this really seriously. Do you have anyone who can tell you whether your mum left a Will?

I’m sorry that’s a sad thing to have happened and sad about your sister. Probate at the moment is taking up to about a year so if you don’t see the Will on that website that could be why and you can look again every month

Sorry for your loss, I wonder if the Funeral Director may be able to help at all, they may know if your mum used a solicitor or help you contact her g.p. who may k ow a bit about her private affairs. Your mums local Registar Office may also able to help.