Ex suddenly doesn't want ds after fighting in court

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Ds 9 has trauma from DA in the relationship and also is being assessed for adhd and asd .
Years fighting abusive ex in family court finally agree cao- am resident parent, he has alternate fri- mon.
Ds behaviour has got challenging lately, ex has said he's not seeing him anymore, to respect his decision, not taken lightly.
He was due to have him for Christmas. He's returning him today.
Can I legally stop him now from messing ds about and changing his mind . Ds is inconvenient for him, impacting on his lifestyle. But I don't want him to dip in and out of his life as ds can't cope with uncertainty.
It's so unfair. Anything legally I can do?

Can you make him put it in writing, even just by email, explaining his reasons? Then if he changes his mind at a later date, you could simply refuse and if taken back to court you can show them what he's said?

He put it in a text, that he couldn't cope with behaviour . If that's admissible.

You can apply for a variation of the order to reflect your ex’s decision.

Thanks. Last time I had a solicitor but can I do it as a litigant in person? Or is it best to get a solicitor. Do I apply directly to court?

I'm worried he's going to change his mind. Poor ds. What must he have said to him. What will I say to him. It's rubbish.

As hard as it is sit it out, let it become the status quo, then if you x changes his mind go back to court and request a change to the orders. Save yourself the stress, if that's his decision unlikely to change.

Good sage advice. Thanks.