Messy dispute

[3LittleBits]

My childrens bio dad who has not been interested for 10 years has sent me a solicitors letter, through my child not posted, saying he wants legal rights over them (he refused to sign birth certificates) there are several mistakes in the letter including spellings of names any advice? He also called social services on me 3 times who did come out, hats off to them, but no case to answer on any visit. He has no job but I do so he knows I cant afford legal advice but does he get legal aid? I'm just very upset

Ps
He contacted my daughter through facebook (she 15) and asked to see her I've never kept them apart so i said yes my sons dont want anything to do with him

How old are the DC?

He is welcome to go to court to get his name added to their BC, it's something he will have to do and pay for...

15, 13 and 11

He would have a long road, obtain parental rights, start contact via a contact centre or even perhaps letter.

TBH it will cost him time, effort, money he will probably get bored and is likely enjoying the "fight" knowing it's hurting you.

He won't get legal aid unless you've battered him recently.

I'd ignore him for now but if he applies for PR and/or change of birth certificate why would you object?

Incidentally if he does apply to court if I were you I'd ask for an order granting you permission to take them out of the country on holiday.

Which is true it totally is I work hard 4 my little bits to give them everything and he just walked in like man of the year! I try not show them I'm upset but having a 15 year old hand over a solicitors letter and smile and say thank you kind of hard he spelt all their names wrong and mine!

Is it a real solicitors letter?
I would have thought they would have posted it to you?

Haven't seen him in 10 yrs. I object because he didn't want it then so why now? Boys dont want his last name they want 2 still b nanas boys lol it's hard to explain in that respect I have no overall objection to his name on BC but he had more than one chance with each of them and chose not to and it's not like am a bitter hag but I went through all the hospital stuff the consultants 13 year old aspergers and other issues maybe I am a bitter hag.....just feels unfair that he can walk in and demand stuff why I tried for years to get him to care

Well it seems real I googled the solicitors and the exist

*they

Look he's a dick and no father!!!

Getting PR only means he gets a say in choosing schools etc and quite frankly he's missed the boat on anything that matters he can't change their names.

Let him spend his money on solicitors and court, sounds like the boys aren't interested. Just support your DD and be age appropriate truthful with her. "Why do you think x?" Just get her thinking etc.

The solicitors likely spelled the names the way he gave them. Remind him that if he goes on the birth certificates that he will need to pay child maintenance, which you will file for immediately.

Any chance he is wanting one of them to live with him as a gateway to benefits???

I just chose the baby's school he told my name wrong! And both boys names I did check out child support as he has no job it £7 for all 3 I'm not concerned about money I raised them alone so far and have been honest and said he just wasn't ready never bad mouthed him it's hard with my daughter he buying her iphone and stuff like fake tan haha 13 yr old gets dla but even that not great with things he does sometimes but it does help with some things only low rate but it keeps him in plushies plus a good nan who runs a plushie hospital lol she sows them when they rip