Separating

[ssatch]

So my husband and I have decided to seperate. It's been a long time coming and we are both at fault of the marriage not working.

Now he has decided that he wants half of the house in money to buy a new house. This is all happening quickly so he can be near the children. My parents have put in around £80k to 'our house', but guessing that we just have to evenly split. The plan is to have the children an equal split. We earn the same money, and I will have kids more on holidays as am a teacher.

My questions are...
Do we just do an even split of everything to keep out of courts if we can do outlet selves to save money or am I entitled to more?
Does he have to pay me anything if we are splitting the kids equally.

We are renting a house 20 mins away for the next few months and instead of swapping kids around we are alternating the moving each day. It's going to be mad but it's seems fairer on kids.

We're going to tell the kids this weekend

Go to mediation. Get the finances sorted there. there are most likely persons to be sorted/divided. Then get solicitors to draw up a consent order on divorce.

Why should he pay you anything? You are earning the same.

Try and mediate - even using a mutually agreed third party. I did this with my ex.

Also - the financial agreement isn't just the house put all assets including pensions pots.

The split doesn't have to be 50:50 but if it appears unfair the judge can turn it down. My judge did with mine originally until we sent further info explaining why we had agreed the split.

Persons = pensions.

if your parents have put money into the house did they do it as a gift to both of you or as a loan - if its a loan - even if not in writing, this would be repayable aftr the mortgage and then they could lend it back to you giving you more money than him in the end.

ie house sells for 300, mortgage 50 - paid back, parents paid back 80, remaining 170 split equally - you get 85 then your parents lend or give you 80 giving you a final total of 165