Named as executor of will, but don't want to be.

[Justmuddlingalong]

I'm very, very low contact with my mum. She's still alive. I know I'm an executor of her will as she told me (rather than asked) that was what's happening. How do I go about removing myself from this position? I'm in Scotland in case that makes a difference. TIA

An executor can simply refuse to act if they don't want to, if there is a second executor they can apply for Probate alone. I believe you would need to sign today that you do not wish to act.

To say* not today!

I’d do it. At least you would then be in the loop about what’s going on and know the Will is dealt with. Did you need to be asked? Seems a bit precious of you as a daughter.

When the time comes, go to a solicitor and appoint them to do it. There's no need to even think about it now, I wouldn't let it bother you.

Thanks for the helpful advice. I'll leave it until the time comes and worry about it then.
@BubblesBuddy, I'm not being in the slightest precious. I'm trying to cope with years of abusive, manipulative behaviour from an absolute bitch who just happened to birth me. She can stick her will, her money and her house right up her arse.

I have the situation where my dad's wife of a few years is the executor and we know nothing (my sister and myself) even though we are also named beneficiaries. We know she has a problem with us inheriting everything and wanted everything to be left to her. We don't think she can do anything about it but she is dragging her heals and has been doing so for 9 months. We wish my dad had also made one of us an executor to give us more control. You only have to instruct a Solicitor but as previously said, you would be in control. I would just forget it for now and see how you feel whenever it becomes an issue.

You can absolutely decline when the time comes. I wouldn't worry about it now at all - if she 'tells' you that this is what's happening just smile and nod, just naming you as executor doesn't mean this has to be enforced.

Hopefully you are not a beneficiary then!

Yes. Hopefully I'm not. Not one of her siblings, wider family or children have anything to do with her, so I'd imagine either her church or charities will benefit.

@BubblesBuddy

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