Can anyone please tell me if the below would warrant a harassment order, if not can anyone advise me on a course of action.
My exH and I have been divorced for 5 years now. It’s been extremely difficult and we no longer speak at all if we can help it even though we have children, 2 older teens and a younger one.
For years he directly abused me and my partner, issues threats and was a nuisance. The police advised me to get a contact order for our children, that way if he was outside our home on the days he wasn’t collecting the children they could maybe act. I did this but nothing changed.
As the years have gone on he’s met someone and I’ve had another baby. I’ve simply gotten on with my life however now he’s continually uses our children.
He regularly kicks our son out of his house, he’s hard work and aggressive and admittedly I can not control his behaviour, however I would never see him homeless, my ex knows this. That leaves him with a big 3 bedroom house with no children living there, I have a 3 bedroom with 4 children here now, my middle one often loses his bed because the eldest takes it over. He invites the other children places but then says “mum will have to take you and pick you up” which is fine but on occasion I haven’t been able to and I’ve been at the receiving end of the children for not jumping to his demands.
I’ve had threats that I owe him thousands of pounds (I don’t) and he’s going to take me to court (really, I just laughed at this) I’m not sure how he dreams these things up!
Finally he still feels the need to park outside my house, sometimes for hours on end, he just says he’s seeing the kids. This is my home, I don’t want him parked there.
I’m sick to my stomach over it all and yesterday I had what I believe to be a panic attack (never had one before) because my oldest teen was kicking off.
I just don’t know where to go with this anymore, I just know I can’t continue to live like this.