Advice on how to get out safely...?

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Hello everyone who comes to read this. Currently living in ex partners mothers house with said mother, ex partner and DS.

This is the end of an emotionally abusive relationship (last December I was physically attacked and moved out - we have since tried to work things out and try again) he is very controlling and manipulative and it is getting worse.

When we split in the past we have always co parented DS sharing the week evenly. I moved back to my mothers 10 minutes walk away. Now he wants me to leave the house as he feels the relationship ended due to my actions, but thinks I should still wake up every morning at 6am to come to his and get DS ready for school and leave at 6pm when he returns from work.

I still want us to co parent as we did before in a way that works the best for all of us, I just want to make it as unstressful as possible especially for DS. However staying under this roof is not helping the situation, or either of us move on and is 100% no good for DS but ex partner refuses to see it this way and instead feels like any time he has away from DS means I have taken him away. Neither of us speak to his mother so the atmosphere in the house is just awful.

So my question to you is, how do I leave (with DS) in the easiest way possible and start proceedings for a childcare arrangement? If anyone has gone through similar I'd love to hear what happened? Thank you

Were the police involved when he attacked you? Even if not, you should still report as it will help you in the future.

I left an abusive relationship but was able to put some distance between me and him whilst still allowing for some contact.

You don't always have to give him what he wants. Don't be bullied. The current set up doesn't sound workable.

How old is your DS? It's difficult to say what would be appropriate contact but you should not be spending time with your ex yourself whatever.

Women's Aid are good for understanding and advising on the subject. I would give them a call. They helped me.

@Doyoumind yeah, he was arrested but changed the story to say I pushed him first so no further action was taken. DS is 5, so a lot older than when we first moved back to my mums. I think the decision I'm struggling with is when do I go? Most of my important things are still at my mums I only have clothes and shoes here so I can always move that before I actually leave. DS obviously has 80% of his belongings here and his own room which would be a lot harder to move. Did you go to a refuge?