The courts are actually taking me seriously. Shocked.

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I was in court recently. My ex was abusive. Mainly coercive control. He wasn't very nice to me, or my baby, or his child from a previous relationship. Courts have ordered indirect access until fact finding is done, which isn't until early December. They are suggesting a DVPP for my ex. If not completed he won't see his son. They were kind to me, put special measures in place. Explained in lamen terms. Magistrates smiled at me when I was clearly struggling. CAFCASS amazing and took my son's best interests as most important. Am I the exception and can I expect this to all change if I end up eiyh different CAFCASS officer and different magistrates? I'm really stunned hrs been given no direct access and am feeling incredibly lucky that they're working hard to keep me and my son safe.

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Congratulations! It is great to hear that you getting the help and support you and your son needs.

Not the exception at all. I’m glad they’re taking you seriously.

Just waiting for it to go tits up!

You deserve to have the legal process on your side. Long may this continue x

Thats really good to read. Lets hope they keep it up.

It’s sad that you’re shocked. I’m not shocked, though I see in some threads here (the minority) a tendency for some reporting on their unsatisfactory experiences in court to perhaps gloss over the real reasons why they were unsuccessful. The courts do treat alleged victims of DV appropriately. It doesn’t mean however that you will necessarily end up with the result that you want, as that will depend on other factors as well.

Glad to hear of a case where you’re being taken seriously. I have been taken through hell and turned inside out financially in family court so extremely pleased for you! Congratulations! Are you self representing?!

@bishalisha yes I'm self representing. I actually have legal aid due to domestic abuse but I would prefer to do it on my own. Don't even have people coming with me. I feel much more in cont ok compared to when I have a solicitor.

@collaborate I don't even know what I want in terms of an actual outcome. I just want my son and myself of course to be safe from his abuse

I hope all goes well for you, and applaud your work to get as far as you have done.

I'm really not one for solicitors, but on occasions, in complex matters they really can help, (especially if the other side is represented) so just something to bear in mind. The Court can only go so far in assisting you, though I'm sure they really try to.