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Where do I stand in this situation

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Fullsteamahead · 20/08/2019 17:20

I'm in the early stages of separating from my husband.
In the last couple of weeks he has been making my life really difficult.
We have two cars, one leased about to be handed back next month and a second much older car.
I'm self employed (sole trader) and the second car was purchased with the money earned from my business. I'm beating myself up for this but my husband is the registered keeper of this vehicle as is for the newer leased car.
He has taken keys for both cars and won't let me drive either. The older car needs work done and apparently is not driveable at the moment. The newer car is over its mileage allowance and he won't let me drive it as he cannot afford to pay for extra miles (meanwhile he drives it everywhere himself)
We live in rural area, no buses or taxis around so car is a must. Me and kids have been stuck for over a week now.

Second thing is that I had a sum of money in cash at home saved for a rainy day (all saved from my own earnings from my business). Yesterday he found the money and took half of it. When I confronted him he said that this money was earned while we were together and is, therefore, ours and not just mine. He did some building work for me before I opened the business and is now insisting that I owe him pay for 300 hours at £25 per hour and that the money he took doesn't even cover half of that.

Third thing is that he refuses to move out of the house even though I've asked him time and time again. He says he will move out once all our credit card debts are paid off and not a moment sooner. Credit cards amount to just over £12k and are all in his name even though admittedly we took them out together. I said that since he has now got half of my savings which would go some way towards paying off credit cards I'd really appreciated he moved out. I also said that I would then contribute monthly towards the credit cards. He refused point blank and said he would only move once the debt was fully paid off.

Can anyone with legal knowledge shine a light on this please. I'm confused and frustrated. Part of me feels that I should just move but I really don't want to disrupt kids lives (they've already moved far too many times before) and also my business is right beside the house so logistically it would be much harder being further away.

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prh47bridge · 20/08/2019 18:02

You need to see a lawyer and start divorce proceedings.

His idea that you owe him pay won't fly. All assets and debts will go into the pot to be divided between you. Once they are in possession of all the facts a lawyer will be able to advise what you are likely to get.

Fullsteamahead · 20/08/2019 21:27

Thank you so much for your help, I really appreciate it. Yes, need to look into getting a solicitor ASAP

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