I split with my children's father a little over three months ago. Since then he has had no contact with the children despite me practically begging him to maintain a relationship with them or to be honest and tell me if he won't be in their lives. He just ignores me all the time. I also emailed him about child maintenance hoping to negotiate a family based arrangement when it came to helping me with the kids financially. He ignored me yet again. The reason I sort of pre warned him that I was going to contact CMS is that he's self employed and doesn't declare his earnings. He's a tax dodger so I said if we couldn't sort something between ourselves I'd have to go through them and I didn't want to as that would possibly mean his business being investigated and his tax evasion being uncovered. I was still ignored. A while ago I used my brothers phone to text him because he has blocked my own number, I asked him again if he would see the kids and if he would help provide for them. He replied saying he does no negotiate with threats or blackmail, told me not to reply and said that's the only warning he would give me!
I'm not sure what that meant but I saw it as a threat. And my email regarding his dodgy work wasn't meant as a threat, it was more to encourage him to help with the kids between the two of us instead of going through services that might start asking him questions etc.
I've asked him since via email if he would at least see the kids and I didn't want money etc. I could use some help but I'd rather my children just had a relationship with their dad. Again I was ignored. He's just not cooperating but he won't just say he doesn't want to be in their lives, I just feel like I'm hanging around wondering if he'll ever see them again. I spoke to child maintainance options and they gave me some advice and a reference number to use to prove I had spoken to them and tried to negotiate payments via a family based arrangement etc. I want to go ahead and make an application but is there any point when he's a tax dodger and he tries to stay off the radar. He doesn't have a fixed address, a work address or anything. All I have is his name, car registration and the address of a friend he stays with (who I believe stores his money for him). At the same time I'm scared to go forward with this as I feel it could destroy his business. But why should he get away with just running from all responsibility of our children?
Has anyone else been in similar situation? What happened? Sorry its a long one.