I am currently living in my house with my two children and my husband who I have separated from and the living situation has become more and more toxic and volatile each day.
It all started 18months ago when my husbands affair with my best friend was exposed. My husband and I had only been married 9months before the affair started and she was my “best friend” for 14 years, I had suspected something was going on and they both said I was crazy, and I even went to the doctors for antidepressants and sleeping tablets. Her children were my children’s best friends too and we would be in each other lives almost daily, we even went on holiday together and spent Christmas Day together. My children have been left upset and confused about why they don’t see their friends anymore.
Since this betrayal I have tried to make the marriage work several times, been through counselling and it cannot work - I know deep down I can never forget or forgive. Also his behaviour since had progressively got worse. He was physically aggressive on two occasions with me which was when I decided I was going to take the children to stay with my mother in my home town. She lives on her own in a four bedroom house that the children have visited on many occasions. Their father has issued me with an injunction to stop me taking the children as she lives 400miles away.
He refuses to leave our 2 bedroom house despite having lots of family nearby where he could stay, whereas I have no family to go to in our area.
He can be verbally aggressive to the children and loses his temper quickly over the slightest things. He has made threats of violence towards me in arguments and then dismissed them later when I question him about it. He says I exaggerate when I look back over the things he’s said and done and says I provoke him to cause an argument and I push his buttons so he loses his temper again and he says I do this to discredit him as a father.
I am now stuck in this hostile living situation and I’m constantly walking on eggshells, I am applying to the court to relocate with the children which he is defending. And he currently has a temporary injunction order on me removing the children from the area we live.
I just don’t know what to do anymore - I feel like this is just my life now and we are stuck. He also smoke cannibas every evening and denies this is a problem.
I still have to share a bed with him which I find incredibly uncomfortable because of the threats he’s made but he says it was a joke, didn’t mean it, said it out of anger or frustration but in all honesty I’m not 100% sure of what he’s capable of anymore. He keeps a large metal pole beside the bed incase of intruders.
Am I exaggerating? Has anyone else been in this situation? Can I leave with the children despite this injunction? I feel like I can’t take much more of his Jekyll and Hyde behaviour! One minute he threatens to push me in front of a bus the next he’s saying he loves me and wants to get back together!
What would happen if me and the children left with the injunction still in place?
We have another court hearing next month but I’m anxious about the weeks leading up to it!
Any advice or help anyone can give will be greatly appreciated. I am so confused most of the time and regularly doubt myself and the whole situation