It will soon be 3 years since my ex saw our child or had any contact with the child and I want to change our childs surname to my family name. I don't want to contact him directly myself to ask him to sign so how do I go about contacting him to ask for permission? and if he doesn't give permission what are my next steps? Has anyone else been through this and if you don't mind sharing your outcomes that would be great?
Some basic background: I was not married to my childs father but he is on the birth certificate. We split when our child was 3 months old, he has not seen him since. there was a non molestation order in place and that is now a restraining order against him and there is also a c100 giving me residence and which he did not counter or even turn up to the hearing for. He has chosen no contact over the alternative of either going to court for contact or going to supervised contact centre, his family have also not reached out once to ask for any contact with the child, which I would have allowed.