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Adultery wording for online divorce

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toobusytothink · 25/07/2019 14:30

I am filing for divorce on grounds of adultery. Husband moved out last September, in February he started seeing someone, I found out in April. He is still seeing her. He will admit adultery. Any advice on what wording you use please? Plan on doing it online. Many thanks

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ColaFreezePop · 25/07/2019 14:37

You are best doing unreasonable behaviour as he's more likely to agree to the divorce on those grounds. If you implicate a third party he can simply refuse to divorce you and then send you back to do the divorce on unreasonable behaviour costing you more money and time.

You can actually mention that he is in a new relationship in the grounds for unreasonable behaviour.

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toobusytothink · 25/07/2019 14:43

Thank you for replying. Doesn’t unreasonable behaviour mean I have to come up with a few things. If he is definitely going to admit adultery isn’t that easier? Thank you

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Collaborate · 25/07/2019 16:20

Better to do adultery, but make sure he'll admit it when the time comes and only issue when you have the proof. Far better not to name the 3rd party.

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toobusytothink · 25/07/2019 16:24

Thanks. Speaking to him tonight so will make sure he agrees to admit it. I’ll admit mine. Shame you can’t file on grounds of your own adultery! Have asked if he will start proceedings but he’s too busy ...

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toobusytothink · 29/07/2019 12:25

So husband has agreed I can file for divorce on grounds of adultery (he’d actually rather that than unreasonable behaviour and seems straight forward) - he is prepared to admit it. So what wording should go in the box? Was thinking

I discovered on April 15th 2019 that my husband had first committed adultery with another unnamed woman in February 2019 and he continues to have a sexual relationship with her. I find it intolerable to live with him as a result.

Is that ok????
Thanks

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HappyHammy · 29/07/2019 12:35

are you divorcing him because of his adultery? he didn't start seeing the other person until after he had left. I was advised just to write something along the lines of "now in a relationship with unknown person"

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toobusytothink · 29/07/2019 12:40

Yes - he moved out in September, started seeing someone in Feb and I found out in April. Relationship still ongoing. Thanks

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