Hello there ,
I'm brand new to mumsnet and was after some advice (I am aware that legal advice won't be given and I'm seeing if anyone has been put in a similar situation that's all)
There is a court order in place that my ex husband took me to court for. He used to see our son 2 times a week every week and has done up until last month. Him and his gf applied to the court again to DROP contact - this was granted so our boy had gone from 2 times a week to twice a month (fathers choice) anyway.... thursday just gone I emailed his father asking if he would be taking our son to his preschool graduation this weekend (his weekend to have him) his answer was no- reason for this was apparently 'I dont tell him what to do whilst he is in his care' ... anyway I let it pass. (even though very upset that our son would miss out on graduation) bottom line is conversation had been had. I collect my son from preschool that evening, I clock his girlfriend in the baby room having already picked up her 11 month old child. I waited in the preschool for a good 15 minutes making sure I have her enough time to leave without having to wall past her car..Anyway..I walk put the preschool to get the bus ... low and beyond who's waiting for me in the preschool carpark,? The girlfriend. She drives slowly toward me shouting at the window at my son asking if he is coming to her sons 1st bday. She then proceeded to start swearing at me when my son didnt reply to her (his choice) I then said to her we are still seeing if we are free (as igs my sons bday the same day- we did have plans) she then continues to say well it's a simple yes or no f answer . I then replied with okay well are you going to be taking him to his graduation, with a quick reply of 'am I f' . I then say well theres your answer. Now please leave us alone as you're starting to upset my son, we then continue to walk to the bus stop. At this point she has reversed her car to follow us once again, screaming out the window, "have you got something to say? Go on f say it let have it '' at this point my son is visibly distressed as am I. I've asked for a 3rd time now to leave us alone , I proceeed to tell her to go and pick up the rest of her children and to leave us be. She then 3 point turns once again (extremely aggressively with a 11 month old baby in the back) and finally says "the only way you'll get me to leave you alone is a f* restraining order" spins her back wheels and drives off. This left me and my son so petrified as to what was potentially going to happen. We rang the police. As the first time she did this me infront of my son the police had to be involved. Fast forward to the court order. I didnt feel that my little boy would safe based on her erratic and scary behaviour going to his dads (as she lives there. I want my son to see his son however I'm not comfortable him being around her ( he also has said hes scared) what do I do ? Should I go back to court as an emergency stating I need a variation order? Meaning that yes of course see our son but she isnt to be around when this happens.. obviously they live together so she will just break it everytime he goes to his fathers. HELP ME! I've never been in this position and I'm concerned for my sons safety yet I dont want him not to have a relationship with his father. (Police are investigating the case as we speak.
Thank you In advance