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Contact stopped with ss advice. What do i do?

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CynthiaRothrock · 20/07/2019 14:56

Hi posting in behalf of my Bil. Need some urgent advice regarding child access.

Bil has court order for access to his son (9yr ol) for EOW end ans holidays. This has a Long drawn out process. Co in place for aprox 18months.

Today is his contact day and ex has not turned up. He had contacted her and she messaged him back saying "ss have advised me to stop contact". Nothing else. She will not respond or answer calls.

We have contacted ss edt, they took name and details and told him he (bil) is not attached to the child on their system. They asked for child and exs details. Then asked him if anyone has been bailed to his address. He said not that i know of (he has not been arrested but he has a flatmate who he is positive has not been arrested but can't speak to him.until later tonight to check) woman on phone then says it is possibly true she has been advised to stop contact. But wouldnt say why?? And told him to phone ss on monday morning.

So he phoned local police to see if there had been amy complaints made about him or if they had anything about his address. They said they cant give him any info due to gdpr.

What can he do in this situation? He last had child 4 weeks ago due to him (bil) been ill on last contact. Ex messaged him 2 week ago to ask bil to take son to an activity this week end, which he agreed to. There has been no contact inbetween. Bil is not aware of any problems.

Ex also has another child and bil is in regular contact with this childs dad. They have a similar contact order and do meet up so the children can do activities together. He has hos child this weekend she has not stopped his contact.

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CynthiaRothrock · 20/07/2019 19:00

Anyone have any ideas? On what grounds would SS "advise" her to stop contact and go against the court order? Surely there would be an investigation or he would have been contacted by some authority?

She has played awful games in the past, and i am hoping that this i just another game to mess access arrangements up as bil is due to have his ds for a week and the same week her daughter is due to go to her dads. She tried to get the court orders for seperate wkends so she would always have a child at home but the courts denied this.

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RedHelenB · 22/07/2019 13:57

I would guess if what she says is true that the child has disclosed something to do with his visits to his Dad. Particularly if the other child is still going to their Dad's
Tbh I think SS have to issue this advice to cover themselves just in case any allegations are true.

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