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Has anyone raised a formal bullying complaint at work and not had to have left the company?!

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user1479588581 · 27/06/2019 21:51

Hi All,

I'm being bullied by my current line manager.

Most calls we have together end up descending into an argument. Despite telling him on two occasions during calls that I'm not comfortable with the tone that he adopts (aggressive, unnecessary scrutiny, accusatory) nothing has changed. Today during another call the same thing happened, it descended into an argument, i told him that he couldn't continue to talk to me this way and shout and that it was not professional and he told me he could that it was his job to do this as my line manager and tell me when I'm doing something wrong?! I wasn't anyway...

6 weeks after leaving on maternity leave my colleague was promoted to Sales Ops manager (we do the same role, and had both worked on projects that were required to achieve the title change). I was told when I returned I would be put on a development plan to achieve this. I raised this during my back to work meeting and he said that he was not willing to put a development plan in writing, and that "sometimes it is better not to put your head above the parapet and to keep a low profile". In other calls he's mentioned that he can look at my computer screen whenever he likes!?

He's known within the company as being a very direct person. When it's been raised before its laughed off as him being dutch and cultural differences but it is now resulting in me ending up crying and shaking after most calls.

I have spoken to our HR department who have said I can raise a formal procedure. However, if I do this then I've heard you're basically out. I've worked at the company for 13 years, two line managers prior to this with no complaints.

Any advice?

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Theworldisfullofgs · 27/06/2019 21:59

Hi I'm going to PM you. Hope that's ok.

Malvinaa81 · 28/06/2019 20:03

I am sorry that you are enduring this.

You ask if I may paraphrase whether an employee who makes a formal bullying complaint (in a medium/large company/organisation?) ends up leaving or having to leave.

From what I have seen, the answer is often yes, unfortunately.

HR are generally useless in these situations and are not there to help you but to back up or even cover up poor management.

Don't expect them to run a fair or even competent complaint, or for it to be done quickly- it might take months, during which time you'd be unsupported.

The best you could expect might be some kind of transfer. I don't know whether the size/type of your workplace makes this an option.

The manager will have no action taken against him- even a slap on the wrist isn't that common.

Sorry but you did ask.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

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