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scissorhands · 24/06/2019 17:54

my partner is living between his mothers, friends and sisters house hes a brilliant worker and brilliant dad the only thing is hes struggling to have his children due to shift work and nowhere really to have them stay as it gets to much for his mother. His ex has now taken things to the mediation and he is so worried I have offered to let them stay with me and my daughter when my partner finishes his night shift fri to sun it will either be once a month or twice a month pending on how many weeks In the month, also over school holidays he will have them a little more, hes now panicking that this wont be good enough but it's the best he can do until he can either afford his own place or move in with me.. I am just wondering has anyone else been in this situation?

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Chocolate50 · 24/06/2019 19:43

Ok so why has the ex taken things to mediation? Who is taking who to court?
How much space do you have - if you have a lot of space then I don’t see why his children can't stay with him at yours.
Are you ready to move in with him? Or is it going to be just while his children are with you?
Sorry for all of the questions I'm just trying to get a fuller picture

scissorhands · 24/06/2019 20:00

She was not happy with other agreements his shift work would not always land on a friday or he would have to work overtime on a sat but when it wasnt his weekend he would have the kids separately as one is autistic for some one on one time. There are 3 children plus my one. Its complicated as my sister lives with me with her children but will go elsewhere on some weekends which is agreed on will be when my partner has his children. This is why he cant live with me. He has no transport but I drive so I help out he also pays child maintenance every week to

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scissorhands · 24/06/2019 20:05

I have a small 3 bed house

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Harpingon · 27/06/2019 14:17

If you start having the children it wouldn't be a temporary thing so it's best you don't jump into this too quickly. The child with autism will need to have stability and routine, it wouldn't be fair to the children to change things unless it is really well thought through and they have their own space, beds toys etc. If he is getting his own place then I would not mess them about in the interim.

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