Advice Needed - Court Statement (Non-Mol)

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Hi,

Bit of background -

My ex-wife and I have a 6 y/o, and she has a 1 y/o with another fella. We split on as decent terms as you can given the situation, we sorted access, maintenance, divorce and house transfer all outside of court and we remain good friends (because it turns out that sort of thing is good for the child in the middle who didnt ask for any of it...)

She's recently split from the Dad of her 2nd child after he started emotionally controlling and bullying both her and our child. He's someone who I don't believe is inherently evil, but when he loses control of a situation he can say and do stupid things. I genuinely put it down to emotional immaturity and a lack of intelligence.

My ex has been granted a non-mol order, which is being challenged, so they are heading back to court. I have said I'd give her a very supportive reference, but I just wanted to check what things I definitely should include, and what types of things I definitely shouldn't?

I've always been very supportive of her relationship. It was my choice to end our marriage, so it would be massively hypocritical of me to object to her finding happiness elsewhere. As long as she's been treated as well as she deserves.

Her ex is threatening to tell the courts that our child has behavioral issues, and is a danger to the baby (absolute nonsense by the way, I'm not saying this through rose tinted glasses, but he's a lovely, kind boy. Top sets, commandments for being a role model, that sort of thing). Even though I have reassured my ex wife that all of his ridiculous comments are just hot air, she is nevertheless extremely worried as he has won court battles against his own ex - he can be very charming and convincing.

I just want to make sure I have all bases covered, so if anyone has been through this before then I'd appreciate any advice.

As an additional, something that really makes my blood boil is that he's offering £120 a month for support of his child. £60 of which he has already docked her for various misdemeanors in his eyes.

I cannot stand any parent who would willingly take food from their childs mouths just to spite someone else.

He hasn't seen the baby in over a month, his view is "oh, he's a baby, he'll never know". The type who will disappear for a childhood and then reappear at 18 expecting to be forgiven over a pint.

Some people shouldn't have kids..

Bumping incase anyone can assist.

What does he think the relevance of your son's behaviour is in this scenario?

What evidence do you have for the court about your ex's allegations against him? The court won't really want to hear your opinion, just actual factual things you have seen or heard.

Your ex needs to go to the CMS about maintenance. Suggest she calls them today.

Basically, the baby doesn't really get animated and excited for anyone but his brother, and the babies Dad feels threatened by this (I've seen this in the flesh). He has absolutely zero evidence to support anything he says about my son.

I'm not someone who will believe in what I haven't seen or heard directly, as I know there is always 2 sides to every story, so I want to convey that via the statement.

With regards to child maintenance, he has a phony business set up to claim he is self employed, and keeps his actual job a secret to avoid paying more. He's bragged about this to me before they split, like he was getting one over the system (and completely ignoring the fact his own children suffer).

He's been reported to the CSA and their response was "oh, we're not sure, have you checked online?".

Crazy system, crazy world.