Any advice would be appreciated on this question on behalf of my daughter. A court order exists which grants alternate weekend, 10am Saturday till 5pm Sunday. He has on four occasions now defied the court order and kept my granddaughter for periods longer than this causing great distress.
I appreciate this being a civil matter police are powerless to act unless there is imminent fear for her safety.
He continually harasses my daughter with emails (he does not have her phone number due to her being abused by him to the extent of spending several months in a woman's refuge) demanding phone calls and being able to take my granddaughter for tea mid week after school (she has just turned 5) my daughter has often agreed to this not wishing to be vindictive.
As well has being abusive, physically, mentally and financially with a history of cannabis use he has narrowly escaped four cases of GBH - all against women. He continually exhibits narcissistic and misogynistic traits in his emails, texts to me and post on public media. This guy is wrong on so many levels!
Last weekend when due to see my granddaughter she unfortunately suffered from sickness and diarrhoea and was in no state to leave the house yet he still expected to take her to his, a 45 minute bus ride. Perhaps he can't perceive mopping up diarrhoea on a bus! She also displays symptoms of anxiety when she is due to stay with him or even talk to him on the phone. My daughter has sought medical advice and been referred to a specialist counsellor.
I believe he has endangered her safety by leaving her in the house alone while he "popped to the shop", she has seen porn images on his laptop computer (a picture of somebody blowing on a Mary", took her sledging - the snow had already melted - and allowed her to go flying through a car park. He has slapped her legs on occasion and nipped her.
He has threatened court action (I guess for a variation in the order, I believe he ultimately wants 50/50 time) and apparently elected to bypass the mediation meeting. I didn't think electing to miss out the mediation stage was possible? My daughter was contacted this week to arrange a mediation meeting - strange, yet he insists he knows the law and a court date will be due in the next few weeks.
Due to pick my granddaughter tomorrow, we are very tempted to tell him (once she is safe) he will only see her again after the court date (which after all is only a couple of weeks away according to him) as we fear for her well-being and safety.