Advice Pls

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I'm new here and I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this post but here goes...

My daughter's father is taking me to court again. He has a long history of EA, intimidation, control etc.

This morn, ( Saturday) he turned up early morning to the home of one of daughter's nursery staff, demanding info on daughter's progress, wanting staff mobile number etc. Staff member felt v intimidated and contacted me about it. She let him in but was v threatened. Apparently she was in her nighty on the sofa when he arrived. Ex has never done drop offs or pick ups so they've never met.

I can't believe he's done this. Apparently he wasn't aggressive but very forceful. I had to apologise profusely to her. I want to raise it with his solicitor. Am I right to? Any advice? I don’t know whether to drop it just to keep the peace. Thanks

How does he know the nursery staff and their home addresses?

She should report him to the police, that's bordering on harassment

I would report it to the police. Especially if you're going to court and you say he's emotionally abusive. Have a record of it even if they don't do anything. It can be flagged up in court. Can your solicitor raise it?

Has the first hearing happened yet?

Hello MrsBert,

The first hearing hasn’t happened. I’ve not go the court papers yet although I know he’s issued proceedings. This is the third time
In a year. It’s exhausting. Each time I have been vindicated and court ruled with me. I’ve read I can apply for a batting order to prevent further applications automatically. Are you legally trained? Do you think his behaviour is concerning, or at least should be raised in the hearing?

How did he know her address?
Why did she have your number?
Why did she call you & not 999?
Very odd behaviour

Why on earth would she let a complete stranger into her house?

How did he know where she lived?
She should report his visit to the police.

Yes, I'm a family solicitor. If you have a solicitor you need to talk to them but, if not, for starters...

Talk to CAFCASS about it when they phone you to prep the safeguarding report. It's really out there behaviour. Your daughter's nursery needs to take care of their employee, and she should talk to police.

Complete a C1A setting out this and any other issues of concern.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-c1a-allegations-of-harm-and-domestic-violence-supplemental-information-form

You can apply for a direction under s91 (14) Children Act 1989 to prevent further applications without permission from the court, you need to say up front that that is your intention. You can do that in section 5 of the C1A.

Is the member of nursery staff a friend of yours?

The member of staff needs to report this herself- it's nothing to do with you but it will be helpful for proceedings. Get the nursery to raise it separately....

Bloody hell, if a parent showed up at my house I'd be calling the police. I can't see why she called you instead.

Hello MrsBert,

Thanks so much for your advice. It’s so hard to navigate without a solicitor. Do you know whether i can request he attends a perpetrator programme in the CA1 form or is this something only the court can decide? Thanks

Does he admit to his abusive behaviour? If not pps are out in any case.